It's the day after Mother's Day. We hope you had good day, whatever that means to you. Many of us live a Through The Looking Glass version of parenthood, Moms and Dads alike. Same could be said for siblings. Some are grieving the loss of their child, like Tim and Sheri Welsh, whose son Tanner passed away in the Spring. Like Harry and Gina Tembenis who lost their Elias so many years ago. Holidays are just different when your child has a developmental disability. I'm of an age where my friends are celebrating their kids' weddings and first grandbabies. Not to be for me. Some of are single parents (raises hand) pulling double duty for our kids. The world moves forward, and often you feel left behind. Left out.
The girls and I drove to Massachusetts to visit my Mom for the day. It's not a bad drive, 143 miles North on I95 from Connecticut through Rhode Island into Massachusetts. We left at 10:00am and were home at 7:00pm. As I was getting a quick meal together for them, my doorbell rang. Standing there was my neighbor, a lovely Mom of 3 kids from 8 to late teens. She handed me a bouquet of flowers and said:
"You are a strong Mother. I see how hard you work. Happy Mother's Day."
I can't tell you the last time I felt so appreciated. Such simple words. Really struck my soul. I felt seen.I didn't even know that was important to me. I hope you feel seen from time to time too.