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By Cathy Jameson
Through his father’s eyes. What does he see? Does he see the same things I do for Ronan? Sometimes. Maybe. Yes. But not always. I am the day-to-day provider. The main caretaker. The maker of the schedule and creator of all of the meals. I take care of the therapy. I drive to all of the appointments. He can do everything I can do, including defend important rights.
But does he? The father? Does he do all the things I do? He does. A little bit. Sometimes.
He can do everything that I can do. He also does so much more! I’m not ashamed of that. Nor am I less than he because of that. I’m the mom. He’s the dad.
I know other families who are going this thing called life without a dad like Ronan has. Their workload is doubled. Their stressors are greater. Their burden is heavier. I thank God every day that Ronan’s father is here. Not every day is a perfect day for him, or us. Far from it! But it’s a day for us to be together, to work together. It’s a day for us to care for a young man with severe autism and multiple medical conditions. It’s a day for us to not give up but to always remember to try.
No matter the path…
The father has promised to keep his child safe.
To help him be happy.
Not everyone has what my boy has. I pray that whoever is the father figure is one who can guide, who can encourage, and who is exactly who your child needs them to be.
Cathy Jameson is a Contributing Editor for Age of Autism.