I popped onto Facebook late one Friday afternoon. Having had a very busy morning, I just wanted to relax and read and catch up on what my friends were talking about for a few minutes. I sat down next to Ronan, who was also taking a break and playing on the Wii, and scrolled through my news feed. Since I had less than an hour before I had to jet out again, it would be a quick peek.
I had just about had my "fix" and was about to log out when I told myself just a few more scrolls....a couple more status updates to read...and I'll be all done... That’s when I saw a request. It was a short post and one I couldn’t ignore. My friend was looking for other moms for assistance. She hadn’t shared much, but I knew right away it was no ordinary request.
Our community added a new member.
A young mom.
Her child was recently vaccine injured.
Trying to do things on her own, she knew that it was time to ask others for help. Could one of us moms help? Please?
Having been that new mom before, I immediately contacted my friend who posted the request. Hey, I'm here. What do you need? What does the new mom need? Is it resources? A link? The name of a doctor? You name it, I'm ready to help.
As quickly as I contacted my friend, she connected me with the new mom.
Hello, I'm Cathy, mom to a vaccine injured kiddo. I've been at this a long time. I'm sorry to have found you, but I'm happy to be here to help you. Tell me what you need. If I can't help personally, I'll do my best connect you with someone who can.
That time I had to just sit and relax for a few minutes became a power hour. We sent several few emails back and forth. In hers were questions. In mine were ideas. Names of providers. Phone numbers of their practices. Suggestions of what to do now. Forewarning of what may come down the road. Knowing how intense and emotional this next stage for her could be, each email ended with the same thought. I told her:
If you need anything else, just let me know. I'll be there to help, to offer support, to be an ear to listen, to hold a hand. Whatever you need, I promise that I'll be there.
I don't know this woman personally, but within minutes she joined a family of mine - a family of that has come together under the most unexpected circumstances. We’ve come from all manner of backgrounds – ethnic, religious, political, socioeconomic status – but none of that matters. We’ve come together for our children. We stay together to make things right and to make things better again.
It made me sad that another child has been adversely affected by a liability-free vaccine, but I was ever so grateful that in someone's hour of need, I could offer a few kind words. I could share a few simple suggestions. I could, and later did, say a few prayers for this woman as well.
Those prayers are the same ones I say for all of the families I've gotten to know along this journey. They are prayers for strength, for healing, and for hope. May we always be there for one another. And may we always remember to choose hope.
Cathy Jameson is a Contributing Editor for Age of Autism.
For the new moms we’d hope we’d never meet… these are a few links that get shared when you join the family. Got one you want to share? Leave the suggestion in the comments below.
Books to check out:
Miller's Review of Critical Vaccine Studies: 400 Important Scientific Papers Summarized for Parents and Researchers
Vaccine Epidemic: How Corporate Greed, Biased Science, and Coercive Government Threaten Our Human Rights, Our Health, and Our Children
Evidence of Harm: Mercury in Vaccines and the Autism Epidemic: A Medical Controversy
Dpt: A Shot in the Dark
Websites to bookmark:
Texans for Vaccine Choice: this group has some amazing advocates in TX. They share things that may not be specific to each state, but I find their info very informative. Plus, they are a bunch of bad@ss mamas and papas who boldly stand up for their rights while also standing up for everyone's rights.
National Vaccine Information Center - NVIC is a GREAT site with loads of updated vaccine news, research, and legal info.
Children's Health Defense - these guys are movers and shakers! I love being on their email list (and have worked with several of their team members on projects in the past). RFK, Jr. is the founder and is bravely using his voice to speak up on all manner of issues, including vaccines.
Documenting Hope - their website description says it better than I can…they are “a multi-year research and media initiative to scientifically demonstrate that children can get better from chronic conditions including autism, ADHD, allergies, asthma, autoimmune disease and many more conditions currently believed to be lifelong.”
People to watch:
Robert F. Kennedy, Jr.: environmental lawyer whose voice is getting louder and louder the more ridiculous the vaccine laws are getting; runs CHD
Dr. Paul Thomas: pediatrician in Oregon and advocate for parental vaccine choice
Forest Maready - fairly new voice to the movement; he's got experience in the film industry and has created very informative videos; he's also written books (I've not had a chance to read them but hope to)
Dr. Suzanne Humphries - board certified doctor, author, researcher, advocate; she has a great deal of info youtube - lots of medical lectures that are worth watching
Jennifer Margulis: author, researcher; advocate; supporter of parent vaccine choice
Ginger Taylor: author, blogger, warrior mama extraordinaire
Barbara Loe Fisher: runs NVIC; child was injured by the DTP; legislative advocate
Blogger Megan of Living Whole
On my list to watch:
Documentaries I’d Rewatch:
The Greater Good
Under Our Skin
The Business of Being Born