Below is a Facebook post I could have written myself. Three times. Please consider support VOR - Voices of Reason for the disabled. VOR has been fighting for the rights of the disabled, including the autistic, for decades. I was their keynote speaker several years ago and still recall how welcome I felt there, as we all had the same agenda - our children's rights throughout the lifespan. It's ironic that I teach self-defense. I earned my black belt in two martial arts late in life. And I train every day. Protecting women is my passion. And yet, I can do little for my own daughters.
The post linked an article from the National Counsel on Severe Autism.
An autism fact too horrible to discuss May 27, 2020 The mother of a teenage daughter with nonverbal autism opens up about her extreme sexual vulnerabilities
My 17 year-old daughter, I’ll call her Cathy, has autism. Not the “self-advocate” autism, or the “neurodiversity” autism, or the Daryl Hannah autism (whatever that was). Noooooooooooo. My Cathy has an autism that leaves her helpless, 100% defenseless.
Cathy is gorgeous, quite tall, with wavy bright blond hair and a face like a doll. If an actress were to play her in a movie I think Cameron Diaz would fit the part. But after that, no similarity. Cathy can’t talk, read, write, answer a phone, text, or understand a story. She can’t brush her hair or teeth, wipe herself after toileting, change her menstrual pad, or put on her clothes. If it’s freezing outside it wouldn’t occur to her to put on a coat. More than once she’s left the house totally naked.
I found NCSA because of this post on its website, A Sister’s Quest to End Sexual Abuse of the Severely Disabled. I was looking for information I could use to protect Cathy, because she is more vulnerable to sexual assault than almost anyone else in the world. Mothers like me suffer a sheer terror that rips our hearts into pieces.... Read more: An autism fact too horrible to discuss May 27, 2020 The mother of a teenage daughter with nonverbal autism opens up about her extreme sexual vulnerabilities