Hi, friends. Kim here. I live about 15 miles from Sandy Hook, Newtown, Connecticut. One of the beautiful children murdered was named Avielle Richman.
A news story broke that yesterday morning, Avielle's Dad, Jeremy Richman, "a neuropharmacologist with more than 20 years of experience in research and drug discovery", (that made me sit up and take note) committed suicide. It hurts even to type those words.
I have seen first hand what suicide does to a family. It's devastating forever. Suicide triggers anger at the loved one, and this anger is directed not at a disease or a vicious murderer or even a terrible accident which puts it at odds with the sorrow of grief. We aren't supposed to be pissed off at the person who dies. Many of us bury that emotion as surely as we bury the body.
I am so very sorry for his friends, colleagues and family - reeling yet again with the pain of loss. With the anger.
I have been reading comment after comment about Richman's death and the toll of PTSD. Many of them have had a similar thread. I will paraphrase:
"Can you imagine the agony of knowing your child was harmed, and then having a conspiracy deny your loss, and have lunatics call you a crisis actor, and then have the radio, TV, blogs and articles run story after story that completely denies what happened to your family?"
Can we imagine?