Bayareamom and Benedetta, your comments are music to my ears. I do think that people have a choice - if they can't possibly afford to stay at home for at least the start of their child's life, do they really want to have a child? Perhaps like the expensive car, he's just a status symbol!
However I also think that governments are not honest with people about what is available to them. Mothers in the UK are given the impression that husbands will be required to provide, or failing that the welfare system will be there to support the family. I myself was completely failed by the courts, my own lawyer informing me that my ex-husband's new partner took priority for provision before my legitimate children! And then we were also failed by the state, and left, according to same lawyer, "destitute". Looking back, I suspect there was a lot of prejudice against a mother who believed in bringing up her own kids at home, though this was never stated so I didn't have the opportunity to put my case. Thanks, both, for opening the debate. I'm sure many here, who have been obliged to stay at home because of their child's vaccine injury, would agree with you.

I was attacked the other day or felt that I was, by simply stating a 3 month old baby has no business in a day care center. Well they don't. I think it was about a baby that died after it caught meningitis; that was the same stuff that some college students catch from living in cramped conditions in dorms some times.

In the last few decades there have been stories on the news of overly stressed, career driven people going to work and forgetting to drop their babes off at the day care center, and leaving them to die; forgotten in a hot car. The three that I remember are: a high school teacher that did stop to buy donuts for her students that morning, A college professor whose turn it was to drop off the babe; and had a meeting, and a manager of some building supply store (I am not sure he counts since he was also busy texting another woman, he was cheating on his wife).

Where do we place the importance of our kids? What is really the most important thing in the world to us? Two salaries are needed in the Washington D.C. area is the same thought nation wide by a lot of people. Does a woman proudly say with out guilt in this country that she is a stay at home Mom? Or have we sneered at that till it is a badge of shame?
We put a baby under a year old in a day care setting, for what? Is it really just to put food on the table, a roof over their heads, and a safe, clean environment ; or is there more to it than just that?

Is it really the pressure of prestige we put on young mothers to never have to say that they are a homemaker?
And once out of the workforce they know they will be looked at very critically, and maybe not be able to get back in?
Is it maybe the pressure to own stuff? Which is nice cause I have been there when I did not own much. If it is just about putting food on the table, and a roof over our heads , then do we really have a middle class., or even a poor working class for that matter, is that really the case?

Then maybe living in a parent's basement is not a bad idea and never having children is the only way to go?

Thanks so much, Laura! Honestly, it's hard to read, but every word resonates.

To any parents or parents-to-be finding this uncomfortable to consider seriously, please reconsider, and investigate this practice independently with as much if not much more effort than is applied to any other aspect of raising your children!

@Michael - "symptom or problem"?

I would call it a reality. I don't see it changing anytime soon. I know that almost every mom I have known would have preferred to stay at home with her child, for at least a few years. Some Dads too. I only know one or two (and they were white, upper middle-class) who were in a position to make that happen. From what I see of my daughter's generation (the millennial generation) - they would also prefer to stay home, but with student debt, stagnant wages, soaring housing costs, staying home with a child doesn't seem to be an option. What social movements do you see that would make this a possibility? I don't see the economics getting any better.

Now I live in the DC area, where the cost of living is sky high. Perhaps it is different in other areas of the country?

Great article, Laura. Really good angle! Yes, if babies could speak, none of us would be vaccinating them. Their intuition is what we should follow.

I'm a vaccine-injured adult who became disabled at age 30 after receiving the same vaccines a child would have at a well-baby visit. I wish someone, ANYONE, had said something to make me question the need for vaccines for my international trip.

Please everyone follow Laura's lead and speak up. Even if you are rebuffed, you said something. Think about what the child would say when they grow up and the vaccine world has finally been turned upside down: "How could you, Mom? How could you put my life and livelihood in danger like that? Mom, you were playing Russian Roulette with my health. Vaccines are so barbaric. I can't believe we had self-driving cars and you were still using a medical procedure from the 1700s."

Since I didn't do my research and no one said anything to me, I went on to fully vaccinate my kids until they were 1 then did monovalent measles for each child at age 2. I tell them often how sorry I am that I ever vaccinated them. I had no idea vaccines had disabled me until many years later, but I began researching vaccines in my kids' first year - thanks to Wakefield, Stephanie Cave, and Bob Sears.... that's the first stuff I read. I was shocked that Wakefield's small case series - that did not link vaccines to autism - had caused such an uproar. But it did make me pay attention. First I thought vaccines might actually harm us, then I learned enough to know they aren't even necessary.

Thankfully, my kids are OK. However, 20 years after the vaccines I received, I am still not fully recovered from my vaccine injury. I lost my career and have spent more than $1 million out of pocket seeking recovery. Please, everyone speak up. Every day.

@Cia -

So you would add guilt and fear to moms who already face difficult - sometimes heartbreaking - financial and logistical choices? Seems harsh. One thing I won't do is blame mothers and say "they need to be aware of the price they might pay." And following your line of logic, every mom would need to stay home to homeschool her kids because of school vaccinations.

I would rather put the blame on pharma, who have bought our do-nothing Congress and state legislatures and manipulated the passage of vaccine mandates. I would rather blame greedy corporate employers - who pay crappy wages, don't allow flex schedules, don't provide on-site child care, don't provide space for mothers to pump milk, and don't provide the kind of maternity leave a woman gets in every other western country.

You make it sound like everyone could "figure it out" if they put some effort into it or if they were scared enough. From what I've seen, that isn't the case. Most people have far fewer options than you seem to think. Really, how about our society actually giving moms some support!

Aimee,

I know that most American families have to have both parents work, which pretty much requires daycare and prematurely ends breastfeeding. But everyone should be aware of the price they pay and look for other ways of managing. In many cases they could ask the mother of one of the parents to live with them until the baby is two or they could hire a caregiver who only cares for one or two children. And a caregiver would be expensive. I remember being shocked when a friend told me twenty years ago that she was paying seven hundred dollars a month for the university daycare. And a single caregiver would cost more than that. Many wouldn't be able to afford it. But most parents at this time kid themselves by saying that everyone uses daycare, and since the shots aren't dangerous anyway, who cares? They say that way the child learns to get along with others at an early age, or that he gets toughened up for the rigors of the world, so it's really a good thing. Very few even think about the risk of contagious diseases, when it is very important that they realize that the pertussis and flu shots are very ineffective and many who have gotten the shots get the diseases anyway. It never passed through my mind when I took my baby to La Leche League meetings at the Newman Center that it might be dangerous to expose her to twenty babies and toddlers in the same room. And she got pertussis, despite having gotten three DTaPs. And the fourth one erased her only words and she was diagnosed with autism two months later. The encephalitis from the hep-b at birth was another factor.

And most people kid themselves by saying that formula is just as good as breast milk, and that's what they got as babies, and look how great they turned out. It's not true at all.

I'd just like everyone to understand the situation. If they absolutely cannot have the mother stay with the baby, or another single caregiver, and absolutely cannot breastfeed for very long, that's just the way it is. But they need to understand that it's bad for their baby that they cannot do so, for both psychological and physical reasons. It's like when we've talked about measles. Natural measles depresses the immune system much more than other diseases, and does so for two or three weeks from the day the rash appears. Not for years, the way the shills say, but for weeks, and it is important that the child remain quiet at home for those weeks to prevent an opportunistic infection from taking hold. Many children don't have a mother who can stay home with them for that long, but everyone needs to understand the price if they decide to go with the program and get the MMR for the child.

And we've talked about Hib meningitis. It is a danger for babies who are not breastfed. I'd say and in daycare, but I think all daycares require Hib vaccination and several others for their clients. And I've said that in the worst case scenario, meaning not breastfed and in daycare, parents should consider the Hib vaccine after the age of four months old. The baby is protected by his mother's antibodies for the first six months, but is at risk of a severe case of Hib meningitis between six and eighteen months old. In the '80s, one in 200 babies used to get a severe case, and one in a thousand died of it. In those who got a clinical case, about one in four was left deaf and another one in four suffered brain damage and often mental retardation. The vaccine completely ended clinical cases of Hib meningitis, but started the peanut allergy epidemic and can also cause many other severe conditions. I let my baby get three Hib shots, but refused the fourth after reading a Mothering article about it. She was breastfed and cared for at home, so there was no need for the vaccine. But I didn't know as much about vaccines and VPDs then as I do now.

There are no easy answers for parents compelled to work, use daycare, and end breastfeeding in a short time, but they need to be aware of the stakes involved and see if they can come up with any way to deal with the situation short of daycare. And if they can't, it's certainly true that they are in the company of millions of other families. But they need to think about how they will feel when their child develops vaccine-induced neurological or autoimmune conditions as a consequence of having gotten the required vaccines, which is the majority of children now. In many cases that imagined pain might help them find other solutions.

Thanks Laura.

Part of any "Perfect Crime" is not having any witnesses who can talk.

Laura, Thank you so much for this excellent post. I hope it is read by very many new parents who are sensible enough to do their research before making such an important decision. A decision that will affect their child's life.

Laura, Your amazing dedication to exposing vaccines' toxicities is only matched by the great Dr. Andrew Wakefield and our own AoA Dan Olmsted, Mark Blaxill, and a cast of too many to mention.

As to your Post, I'm sorry to say that those "medical people" staunchly giving vaccine injections to helpless babies (and permitted by 'ignorant' parents) - almost certainly indeed do such injections to their own infants. Why?! Because they are completely "indoctrinated" (an apt term by Bayareamom here on AoA many years ago that I am fond of using).

Therein is THE massive problem: For the last three decades+ Medschool and Nurse Schooling have indoctrinated their graduates into their unquestioning belief "vaccines are safe and effective." So, yes, they WILL actually vaccinate their children per the draconian ruinous CDC Schedule. Such is the maleablity of the human mind throughout history; and all their babies' terrible reactions will be chalked up to "coincidence." Thanks for all you do.

And do not ever let them cut off the best part of my penis. There are 16 important functions to the foreskin. There is no medical benefit to this amputation and there are plenty of psychological and physical problems caused by this barbaric practice. There is no medical organization on earth that recommends routine infant circumcision. 50 to 80 percent of the feeling is removed after a circumcision. How would a parent explain himself when the child finally realizes what he was deprived of. You don't want to have that conversation.
Please watch the videos here:
doctorsopposingcircumcision.org

So powerful Laura! Thank you!
As a former Labor & Delivery & Newborn Nursery Nurse as well as a natural childbirth instructor - my favorite line to share with new parents was “NEVER abdicate total responsibility for the health of your child to your pediatrician!” Emergencies are one thing - but when it comes to routine care or well-baby visits - now more than ever, parents MUST do their own research, trust their instincts & not be
intimidated by anyone regarding decisions that affect the health & wellbeing of their children.
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