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By Marcia Hinds

How many of us still remember bullying incidents that occurred when we were in school? These incidents probably only happened once or twice in our lives, but the pain and those incidents are still etched in our minds as though they happened yesterday. We put the bullying behind us, and may be stronger as a result. But what if the bullying occurred on a weekly basis or even daily? Would it be as easy to overcome?

Bullying can happen at any school. But middle school is often the worst time for our children with autism. Those years are awful for many kids, but for children who are socially and behaviorally different, it can unbearable and physically dangerous. My son was painfully aware that he was different from the other kids and not accepted. Ryan became an easy target for bullies. And since he was lacking in the social skills area, he didn’t have many friends to protect him.

Ryan still carries the scars of what happened during those painful middle school years. I never realized the magnitude of the bullying problem, because Ryan never shared what happened during his day. When he came home, I gave him a hug and asked how school went. The answer was always the same, “School was fine.”

I should have recognized the signs. Every morning when it was time to get ready, the panic started and my son didn’t want to go. Ryan dragged his feet. It took forever to get him out the door. As we got closer and closer to school, he got weirder and weirder. Some days he refused to get out of the car.

I should have realized this apprehension was not part of his autism or his fear of new situations. But, when were late, yet again, I grew tired of his antics. And when I ran out of patience, I just yelled at him to get out of the car. I should have realized that something was terribly wrong, but by that time I just wanted him anywhere away from me. I still carry the guilt from those incidents.

The bully’s “power” to intimidate is usually not challenged, because the other children witnessing it are afraid. No one speaks up, because they do not want to be the bully’s next victim. Bullies infect the social environment and hurts the academic achievement of all children. Their power is that the other kids think “I’m glad that’s not me” or “If I interfere, I might be next.” But, this silence gives bullies the green light to keep going. Bullying must never be tolerated. It leaves permanent scars on the victim, the witnesses, and even the bully. Too often schools and parents accept it as an inevitable part of childhood. They couldn’t be more wrong!  Read the rest of the article here.

Marcia Hinds I Know Youre In ThereMarcia Hinds wrote I KNOW YOU’RE IN THERE-Winning Our War Against Autism.

When her son was first diagnosed with autism, the “experts” said Ryan would need to be institutionalized. He is now an aerospace engineer. Ryan’s inspirational story is told in a way that is heartwarming, heartbreaking, and sometimes hilarious. Marcia has a degrees in Psychology/Sociology from UCLA and a teaching credential. But Marcia’s most impressive credential is that she is Ryan’s mom and their family beat autism. You can contact Marcia through her website All profits from all she does goes to the AutismOne nonprofit. Currently, she working with Dr. Sue Swedo (NIMH/PANDAS) and a team of professionals to develop treatment centers at our teaching hospitals.



John Stone


In the schools I was at the bullying seemed to be arranged by the staff - or at least they set the example and turned a blind eye, punished the bullied for being bullied etc. Oh, the good old days!


Grace Green

I only just noticed this important article, probably because I was focusing on the adjacent one about Dr. Humphries. Interesting coincidence! I want to remind people again, if you'll forgive my obsession, that bullying in school doesn't just involve students, but also teachers, and that bullying doesn't stop when you leave school. Also, HFAs and Aspies are just as likely to be victims as severely disabled perhaps more so, as more is expected of us, and we have less protection. Don't feel guilty about not seeing the signs - we have all had the wool pulled over our eyes by those who are really guilty (no prizes for naming them!)

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