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Khali raymondNote: We're sometimes called to the carpet for not featuring the voices of people with autism on AofA.  "Nothing about us without us" is a phrase used within the self-advocacy community. We do not exclude on purpose.  I think many, maybe even most, of our readers' children have autism to a degree where writing about themselves is not possible. I was pleasantly surprised a couple of weeks ago to receive an email from Khali Raymond. He asked if we would publish his story. Please visit his site. If you're a teen or adult with autism reading this post, please, we encourage you to share your story. You do not have to agree with all of our opinions and positions at Age of Autism to write for us. We value and need your stories so that we can understand our own kids better. Please leave a kind comment for Khali - and thank him for his submission. Kim

By Khali Raymond

Living with Asperger's is not an easy feat. It never is. imagine yourself in a room full of people. All of those people are laughing and mingling. Meanwhile, you aren’t. You’re sitting there in the corner all alone, watching everyone make nice with each other. Nobody doesn’t even acknowledge that you’re there. You just sit there, crushed from the inside. You have trouble expressing yourself because you don’t know how to. Your fear of being rejected eats you up. Your fear or feeling inadequate to others eats you up. As you’re living with this disorder, those whom you’re around can’t understand your pain. You’re constantly feeling glum and angry. You feel as if this condition drags you into an abyss, an abyss that leads you to a point of no return.

I have this feeling. Growing up, I could never fit in with others. As a kid, I couldn’t look an adult in the eye. I never had the capacity to. There was just something about looking at another person that made me feel very uncomfortable. In social situations, my heart would pound very fast. I would tend to get nervous. I would always be the one that got left out because I couldn’t relate to the other children. Being bullied didn’t help curb my condition, it only worsened it. Every day, I would walk around and get laughed at. I would be humiliated every day. I would be made fun of because of the way I talked, walked, and looked. Imagine trying to answer a question in class and the kids would mock you. Every word you would say, they’d make this expression, trying to take the words from out of your mouth.

As I was around my family, they couldn’t relate to my condition either. I constantly sent them cries for help and they just rejected me. Nobody listened. This only made me feel even more depressed. The bullying in school got so bad that I nearly tried to kill myself at the age of eleven. I was going to leap from out of my bedroom window, but my mom stopped me in the process. I would use writing as my means to communicate. I loved to write. Whenever I was in class, I would be the first person to get up and share what I’ve written with the class. I impressed my teachers with my impeccable writing abilities. My creativity was amplified. There was nothing limiting it.

But, that didn’t mean my issues with my low self-esteem and my inability to become proactive in social situations waned. The kids would call me all sorts of demeaning names, such as retarded, stupid, and many more. I lost my father when I was just a year old, and his loss alone has had a grave impact on how I grew up. As a black man, growing up without a father—that’s not easy.

My father was a very outgoing guy. Everyone loved him. You would never be able to tell if he was sad. He was so resilient. Everyone tells me I look like him so much, but I’m his complete opposite. I’m not as outgoing as he was. I’m reclusive and shy. I don’t open up too much. These issues with bullying and my bout with Asperger’s did not cease. At the age of fourteen, I was booked into a mental hospital. They had me on medications for a while. I ceased taking them in 2013. None of that helped.

Once I got to high school, I began to give up hope. I felt like there was no haven for a guy like me. I carried all this baggage. I bared all these wounds. Nobody could understand what I had to go through. But, I didn’t stop writing. I let my talent weather the storm. I let the arts influence me. Writing was my only escape. It was the only place I could go and not be judged or harassed. Little did I know—this escape pushed me to write my first book at the age of fifteen. On October 26th 2014, I published The Ballad of Sidney Hill. That book marked my coming of age and how much I’ve matured.

That was living proof that I wasn’t going to let a mental disorder define me. They told me that I wouldn’t be able to function once I got to high school. All these specialists who remained doubtful of my growth, because of my condition—I proved them wrong. Fast forward to now, I have written forty books. I am now attending Berkeley College in Newark, New Jersey. I have a message for you all. Never let your circumstances define who you are. You can be anything!

Khali Raymond is eighteen years old, residing in Newark, New Jersey. He's an author of over forty books, a poet, and an artist. He's using his platform to share his battles with Asperger's Syndrome and daily life.

Comments

Aimee Doyle

Good points, Grace. Will take them to heart.

Part of what I love about AoA is the chance to hear opinions from different perspectives. Helps me learn and grow as a person.

Grace Green

Aimee, I agree with everything you just wrote. The ND lobby don't understand the true cause of autism, or the spectrum of disability it can cause. A few things they say I think could be helpful for the "autism Mums/Dads". For example, the idea of being differently wired - I would say, I think differently - is very helpful in getting society to understand that when we say we understand them, we might not be understanding in the same way they are! This could have implications for education, so, letting kids follow their strengths, and not trying to force a standard curriculum on them, for example. But the important thing I'd like to get across to any here who despair of the NDs is , I used to believe that, then I found you here, and now I know the truth. So don't give up on the NDs!

Aimee Doyle

@Grace - I appreciate you and your comments. You are a strong advocate for the cause, and I'm grateful for that. Some final thoughts, though...

You said "I'm not sure how good an Aspie would be at managing to help a severely autistic child." I'm not sure either, but I do get tired of the neurodiversity movement constantly saying that only they (because they're adults with autism) understand autism. In fact, I've had Aspies (who've never even met my son) tell me they understand him better than I do! And more than one of these individuals has told me that his self-injury and aggression was my fault - because I didn't love and accept his autism. So I throw out the challenge - if they understand autism so well, then how about some hands-on help for those who are severely impaired or help for the families? The neurodiversity advocates are the ones making the claim that they "get it" - not me.

You also said I don't understand Aspergers. Maybe that's a fair criticism. It is hard to get inside someone else's head. I am sure the challenges are bigger and harder than I realize. So I apologize for any offense. However, I have been part of the ASD community for over 25 years. I know people at all levels of functioning. Even among Aspies there's a wide variation. I know there are Aspies who are extremely successful - who become computer engineers, or university professors, or have other successful careers. There are Aspies who have relationships, who get married, and who have children. Some of them are the same ones who say any child with severe autism can grow up to become like them. I'm simply asking "how"?

I certainly agree with you that more understanding on both sides would be useful. But I want it to go both ways. I just don't see a lot of understanding coming from the neurodiversity movement toward parents who want a cure, or who have severely disabled kids, or who believe that vaccines are the culprit. I wouldn't force a cure on anyone - I honor individual choice - but by the same token I don't want the NDers denying my child the option for a cure - or claiming only they can speak for him. And that's what is happening.

Jeannette Bishop

Khali Raymond, thank you! Inspiring to read of your choices and educating to read of your experiences.

Grace Green

Aimee, thanks for replying to my comment. I really am sorry for the predicament that you and your son, like so many others, find yourselves in. I can assure you I don't intend to abandon you, only I'm rather a long way from you to be able to do much on a practical level. However I do my bit by always witnessing to the fact that autism is biological not psychological, and caused by vaccines, whenever the opportunity presents itself. This has caused me and my family violent persecution, but I carry on because I believe it's the right thing to do. If there was someone nearer to me that I could be of help to I'd love to do so. However there are two problems. One, I'm not sure how good an Aspie would be at managing to help a severely autistic child. They could even end up doing more harm than good. Secondly, I personally have no income , or electricity, due to my autism, and I struggle each day just to stay alive. Your comments about Aspergers show a huge level of misunderstanding about our condition. Being able to speak isn't the same thing as communicating, and when neurotypicals misunderstand us they are entirely unaware of the fact. How do you think people can live in the world if we can't communicate with other people? Some do actually die, others suffer chronic ill health for which we get no treatment, and most live in dire poverty. The bullying is not just by school kids, but by teachers, doctors, lawyers, civil servants, neighbours, and everyone else. What's the use of going to college if you can't get a suitable job afterwards? You have a problem because you have to look after a severely disabled child/adult, but we have the problem of not having anyone to look after us because people think we're fine, we just don't like parties, or we find life a bit difficult. If you parents of autistic kids find it difficult to deal with nasty doctors and nurses how do you think we manage on our own? I don't think we should be disagreeing with each other when we're all suffering from the adverse effects of vaccines, and there's a battle to be fought. Maybe some Aspies don't understand that their condition is caused by vaccines, but that's because of their autism, and because they have no-one to protect them from the brainwashing of their doctors. There needs to be a dialogue, and that requires understanding on both sides.

Morag

Khali,that's just fantastic,what an achievement! As forthose horrible ignorant swine/bully boys that gave you such a hard,sore and horrible time of it at school etc Those ignorant swine will be left playing with their" own silly wee selfies" as who is going to want to be around horrible creatures like that ? Book -see The World In Six Songs by Daniel Leviten .
Diagnostic and Stastistical Manual of Mental Disorders [DSM-V] indicatesthe diagnosis of Asperger;s disorder no longer exists and has been absorbed into the diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder [ASD] ? Sounds like, and reads like. Top down wishy- washy woo-woo.,in the medicalised labeling department causing harmful confusion and chaos with totally subjective lack of awareness or appreciation of how individuals capabilities are affected even within the basic activities of daily living
See Maslow's Hierarchy of needs for explanation .
William Mcgonagall 1825-1902 Poems In the field there was a cow. It's not there now, It must have shifted. Interesting wikipedia description of Mcgonagall by non medical labeling dept .
an Author and another in a newspaper article have made a woo-woo- ish chucked around label
that Mcgonagall may/likely have been on the "Autism-Asperger's Spectrum "
Utterly Astonishing and what a load of tosh !

Aimee Doyle

And Khali - I sincerely apologize for misspelling your name.

Not Kahli - Khali. I know what it's like - I often get "Amy" rather than "Aimee."

Aimee Doyle

@ Kahli -

I wanted to say that I don't think Asperger's is a "bogus disorder" and I appreciate the challenges you've faced - and I'm sorry for your pain and for so many things that have been harder than they should be for you. I applaud your courage and perseverance. I appreciate that you have posted on this blog and shared your story. You are an amazing young man.

But, you say, "I didn't allow myself to become limited to what a doctor or a specialist said. With every day that I live, I prove those people who caused me to feel a certain way about myself wrong. I have done a lot of great things, and I will continue to do so." That's awesome. But...

My son can't even begin to do what you do. His cognitive limitations are extreme...one of the things that's hardest for me to accept is that part of what is broken is initiative and motivation. I haven't been able to help him find that inner strength in himself. You say you want parents of those with severe autism to grasp this message. I'll be honest - I don't know how - and we've tried everything we know. Maybe if someone with Asperger's would ever spend some time with him, that would help, but I've never found anyone higher functioning who is willing to spend time with those severely impaired. I'm not talking about an hour, I'm talking about a long term commitment, because I think that's what it takes to help heal the kind of brain damage he has.


@Grace - I do agree that non-verbal individuals with autism deal with bewilderment, etc. I appreciate that you feel "a close affinity." I believe you're sincere. But I guess I need more than that. At least those with Asperger's can speak, can interact (even when it's hard), and can live in the world. Many of them can go to college, have relationships, write a blog. I want concrete help for my son - who can do none of those things - and I feel that the neurodiversity community has pretty much abandoned him and those like him.

Gayle

Khali-Thank you so much for sharing what it's like to have Asperger's syndrome. I have an adult son who is in the middle range with autism and he could never write an article like this or write books the way you do. You are a very talented and brave young man to share your experiences with us parents as it helps us to understand our own children more. They can't communicate as well as you do so it is very hard to understand their behavior. You have accomplished so much in your writing and I wish you all the success in the world.

Jenny

Thank-you for sharing your story. It's very insightful for others to understand or be reminded that not speaking and being socially challenged are not the same as not being able to think, hear, and feel. I hope that your story, and sharing it, inspires others in your situation to continue their endeavors, and I hope they find you and read your stories and that it helps them to feel less alone in their struggles. Maybe someday it will be you who will bridge the understanding gap and help design a style of educational material that will better help those on the spectrum when it comes to classroom material, too! There are many ways that you can use your writing talent to reach those who need to hear your message. Best of Luck!

Grace Green

I really appreciate this article. Thank you for the contribution. On the debate about Aspergers diagnosis I've commented on AoA many times. I wonder how many parents of severely autistic children and adults, have read any books by Uta Frith. I know she's not popular with many here, but she does actually describe how the autistic brain perceives the world of people. That is how I came to understand myself, and from there I found AoA and learned that there are many much worse affected than I am. Bill, if it's brain injury then of course there is a huge spectrum of disability. I can't think why that would surprise you. The worst thing that those of us with Aspergers have to face is interactions with society going wrong and the consequent condemnation which we inevitably receive. It's not just socializing which is affected by this inability, it's all interactions with people which are not about something concrete, like science, music, maths, or whatever we're involved in. To me, this seems to explain the bewilderment and frustration of the non-verbal autistic people, with whom I have always felt a close affinity. If people think "social language" just means parties and the like, please ask yourselves, what do Social Scientists do ? Just go to parties?

arawn

Like Bill, I do not intend to disparage Mr. Raymond or his struggles in any way. However, I too find myself troubled by Asperger's and the 'spectrum'. ( With the caveat that I'm not a doctor, have certainly not looked at any brain scans, etc., and really just have the internet to go on. ) What particularly strikes me is the clash between the stereotypically nonverbal nature of severe autism - the loss of words/speech - and the fact that your prototypical individual with an Asperger's diagnosis is not only verbal but, depending on context, seems to have no trouble expressing themselves. ( And at great length, especially when it comes to internet advocacy! ) We're told that a defining feature of HFA is inappropriate response to "social cues". But the focus here seems to have reversed: now we are defining a form of autism, in part, by the individual's behavior in response to nonverbal behavior on the part of others - who are presumed to be 'neurotypical'. Then why don't they use their words? Other alleged characteristics seem troubling. Having unusual or "weird" ( not mainstream ) interests - isn't that allowable anymore? I used to collect bottle caps - was that evidence of autism, as www.autism-society.org implies? Is merely being different itself a disorder? As Raymond says: "Imagine yourself in a room full of people. All of those people are laughing and mingling. Meanwhile, you aren’t. You’re sitting there in the corner all alone, watching everyone make nice with each other." We used to call that being 'shy' or 'introverted'. Also, it is an unfortunate fact of life that social groups are often dominated by bullies, for lack of a better word. When people have trouble fitting in, that's often part of the reason, and they may already have trauma from prior negative interactions with the social mob. It sometimes feels like we're stigmatizing and diagnosing victims of social exclusion.

david m burd

@ Bill and Hans,

Since the "diagnosis" of "bi-polar personality" was first instituted about 35 years ago, the bi-polar label has been slapped on 40x the prevalence it started with, of course bringing $billions of dollars per year of bi-polar drugs, along with these drugs' physical/biological toxicities. These bi-polar drugs literally killed my brother after making his life miserable and suicidal for the last 2 decades of his life. First, infant vaccines ruin millions, then adult drugs ruin scores of more millions, then senior-citizen drugs bring utter misery and final destruction. Thank you NIH, CDC, and Pharma.

Khali Raymond

To everyone who has commented thus far,

Thank you all for your encouraging words. I really appreciate them all and I am amazed and beyond thankful for all the support that I have been receiving. It took a lot for me to come forward and share this story, and I'm glad that I did. I also see that there's a debate over whether Asperger's is a "bogus" disorder or not. I have this to say. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and I respect that. But, you can't ignore the fact that I had to live my life with this diagnosis and and cope with the ambiguity that came along with it. There are certain symptoms that I had to deal with that I'm still coping with until this day. At least try to respect that. It doesn't make a difference whether if the condition is real to you or not.

But one thing is for sure, I didn't allow myself to become limited to what a doctor or a specialist said. With every day that I live, I prove those people who caused me to feel a certain way about myself wrong. I have done a lot of great things, and I will continue to do so. So, one last message to those who debate whether if this is a legitimate disorder or not. It doesn't matter. Try and see it from my point of view. I have went through many challenges pertaining to this "disorder" you don't see as legible. I'm not trying to make it all about me or anything, but nonetheless, it took so much to come out and share this story. There's a side of this that people don't see, and I wanted to bring people the side that's never seen. I hope for those parents of children who do suffer with extreme forms of autism can find a way to grasp the message I have conceived through this article and become the greatest that they can be. Anything is possible. Don't ever give up.

Hans

@ Bill

while I do agree that there are reasons to question a diagnosis like Asperger Syndrom,I do not think many people with Asperger syndrome have just SAD. Studies on brain tissue have revealed signs of mild ongoing inflammation so it is not just a psychological disorder in many cases, it is neurological.

Personally I agree that psychiatry and medicine have been corrupted by Big Pharma but I find the biological denialism that I see on Madinamerica.com equally disturbing.

This leads to downplaying of serious problemes, (Schizophrenia is just a different life experience, Depression is just sadness,Aspergers is just SAD)

It is for example a lie that no biological abnormalities have been found in the brains of people with mental illness, a view that is promoted on Madinamerica.com

Predictably this will play into the hands of the pharmaceutical disease model since any purely psychological approach of biological illness is destinated to fail, re-inforcing the commericial drug model while everyone overlooks the elephant in the room, toxins.

Tim Kasemodel

To Bill (and for Khali):
I am struggling with how you are portraying aspergers in your response. I believe what you are saying is that aspergers should simply not be included into the Autism Spectrum and I am empathetic to that end but also conflicted. I know you may not have intended it but your response just comes across as a criticism. Bill, while I appreciate your opinion, you are asking Khali to look at a diagnosis he has lived with his whole life as “bogus” and that seems a bit strong if not unfair given the way he has opened up to our community as he has.

In my eyes the only difference between low functioning and high functioning individuals is the myriad of combinations of vaccination, environment and economic realities we all faced when we became parents. Whether Khali believes anything we here at AOA do about causation of our own children’s diagnosis, I believe he should be encouraged to share his life experiences with robust applause rather than a pejorative debate about a “bogus diagnosis.

As a parent of a son with the “worst of the worst of the worst” of autism and its medical comorbidities, I only hope we can all accept that the symptoms and behaviors described as aspergers deserve the same attention we would appreciate for our own children, regardless of how anyone else may decide to categorize it.

Keep your stories coming Khali; anything we can do to help those within the autism community to understand the needs of children and adults with either autism OR aspergers helps us all.

Bill

I'm glad to see all the comments here, and I mostly agree with most of them. And I wish only good things for Khali Raymond. But I have to speak out about what I consider to be a bogus, invented, fake "disease". That's so-called "Asperger's". I say there's no such thing. Again, I'm NOT discounting Mr. Raymond's experiences. But look at the DSM-5. So-called "Aspergers" no longer exists. It's now folded in to "Autism Spectrum Disorder"/ASD. Trouble is, there's no *objective* test, medical or otherwise, to determine definitively whether any given person does, or does not, have "Asperger's". How do we know that it's not just a severe case of so-called "SAD". (That's "social anxiety disorder", not "seasonal affective disorder". Whatever....) It's my opinion that Mr. Raymond would have more success by rejecting what I consider to be a bogus "diagnosis". Look at how he was "booked into a mental hospital" at age 14. Look how "they had me on medications for a while", and that "None of it helped". "They" are psychiatrists. Psychiatry is a pseudoscience, a drug racket, and a means of social control. It's 21st Century Phrenology, with potent neuro-toxins. All the so-called "diagnoses" in the DSM are bogus, and they were all invented, -*not* discovered, - to serve as excuses to $ELL DRUG$.
Again, I do NOT mean to take away from Khali Raymond, or insult or question his experiences. But I DO hope that all who read this, please visit >madinamerica.com<, and >beyondmeds.com<, and spend a few hours getting a good education. I've gotten a LOT from reading here at AoA for over a year now, and I hope to share some eye-opening facts that "they" don't want you to know. I have a feeling that in a few years, Khali Raymond will reject that "Asperger's" "diagnosis" out-of-hand. Now, I can't wait to visit his website....
~Bill

ChrissyD

So beautiful Khali. I see a bright future ahead of you.

Verity

Thankyou so much.

Someone

Thank you for writing this for AOA, Khali, and for sharing your deep feelings with all of us. I have two children on the spectrum, and they are similar to you in some ways. They are verbal. They are doing well in school. They are struggling with their social interactions with their peers to differing degrees, and they are both dealing with bullying, which is not at a critical level at the moment. I try to be mindful of their struggles with their peers, but I also try to help them understand that it is only a few more years until they do not have to see any of them again. They will soon have a blank slate among their new peers in college, and I hope to help them learn how to converse better with others during these few years.

Neither of them have the writing skills you have, although they are certainly improving every day. As you already know, there is no limit for the brain, only limitations we, or others, place on our ablilities to learn and to achieve. Those extraneous limits evaporate when an individual, such as yourself, has enough self-determination to get rid of them. Congratulations on that extraordinary accomplishment!

My daughter has found Art as her method of expression, and it is a wonderful thing to behold and to help cultivate, while her brother has a love of computers. I have a guarded hope that both of them will find a rewarding path to help them wend their way through their teens into a self-sufficient adulthood. Perhaps I am deluding myself, but I will not give up hope, nor give up on either of them, and I will never let them feel that success and self-sufficenty are impossible just because they have challenges that are greater than those of their allegedly typical peers, some of whom are so unkind it makes one wonder about their humanity. I pray that in their journey, they are not faced with more discrimination and intolerance than they can handle. I wish such problems didn't even exist for children and adults with disabilities, as they have enough to contend with as it is, just trying to fit in much less thrive amongst their peers. All the best to you, Khali.

Sally Rubin

Thank you for sharing Khali with us!

Barry

The fact that a 'spectrum' which covers the range of Khali's disorder, can also include NON-verbal, sometimes violent individuals, many of whom have entered adulthood without having grasped the concept of toilet training... is a God damned disgrace.

The most severely disabled autistic individuals, are the biggest victims of all. And although the public narrative has to talk about autism, it can never include the children who should be talked about the most. Because the public can never be allowed to make a connection between autism and vaccines.

Although Autism Speaks has flip flopped since, Suzanne Wright got it right several years ago, when she was quoted as saying :

"Of course vaccines cause autism. It's obvious, but if you tell people that, you'll have rioting in the streets."

annie

This is brilliant! Thank You!

Tim Kasemodel

Khali,

My son's autism is the kind that the public never sees on TV. Mostly because his behaviors so severe; a story about someone who hits himself so much his elbows and thighs are in a constant state of bruising, scaring and swelling that it would not play well even in a written article. Not only can he not express himself verbally, even we as parents have not been able to help him express how he feels in non verbal ways including the use of electronic communication aids. We have no way of knowing if he is depressed or how he feels about anything or anyone.

Whenever anyone with any level of autism is able to share their feelings it offers us a glimpse into their world and how they may be feeling. Thank you for writing and helping us parents with the most severe levels of autism begin to understand how our own kids may be feeling.

I am empathetic for all the higher functioning individuals such as yourself. I suspect because you are able to communicate and function to that the degree that you can, most of the public do not as quickly recognize the behaviors as autism and accept you for who you are. When my son is in public (mostly in doctors and hospital waiting rooms) there is generally none of the judgement from strangers that you may experience. He is so obviously impaired that aside from an initial stare as they grasp what they are witnessing, most people quickly and politely go back to their business.
I can't know for sure, but I most often feel it more likely that they feel a pity for him rather than true acceptance, but I am grateful anytime we don't get stares or outright condemnation. It is unfortunate that this is nearly never the case for higher functioning children and adults with autism.

Thank you again for writing and I am looking forward to more of your experiences shared here at Age of Autism.

MB Hendershot

Many thanks, Khali, for sharing the story of your journey with us. You are inspiring. Keep fanning the flame of faith in yourself, and keep writing! Looking forward to hearing more from you. Bean

Rebecca Lee

In retrospect, I realize that my father probably had Asperger's syndrome. He was certainly high functioning as he graduated from Yale University and was a Rhodes Scholar and had a long career as a US diplomat. Although he was the kindest man in the world, he was extremely eccentric and could not look anyone in the eye when he talked to them. He also had the "little professor" symptom. He became an expert on South African politics.
He suffered his whole life with gut issues, too. If I had known back then what I know now about chronic mercury poisoning, I could have helped him.

Aimee Doyle

Khali - thank you for your post. I am sorry you suffered bullying and ostracism. No one should have to experience that. I applaud your strength and resilience and perseverance. You should be very proud of all that you have accomplished and I wish you the very best.

And I agree wholeheartedly that no one should let their circumstances define them. But my son, and many others like him really can't take in your advice. Many of those with moderate to severe autism, ARE defined by their circumstances and the limitations of their autism. My son will never be able to write books or attend college or post on a blog. He will never get married or have children. We have tried hard for 25+ years - providing him with every treatment (conventional to alternative to downright fringe). But he is still profoundly impaired. And he is not alone.

One third of the spectrum is essentially nonverbal - even with the use of sophisticated augmented communication. Approximately two thirds of the spectrum will need lifelong care and support. Less than 5% of the spectrum will be able to attend college. Individuals with autism suffer from gastrointestinal issues, seizures, severe anxiety, and other medically and psychologically debilitating conditions. Many are self-injurious and aggressive and are not able to control their behaviors.

I wish that individuals with high functioning autism and Aspergers would recognize this and provide practical, hands-on, individualized help to those who are more impaired and offer empathy and support to families.

Ann

Thank you for writing.

Angus Files

Superb and thanks Khali always great to read articles from people like yourself.I wish I had some of your writing talent.

Pharma For Prison

MMR RIP

Linda1

Dear Khali,
Thank you for your insightful and inspiring introduction. I am sorry to hear that you have struggled so much and have been hurt by others. Having turned so much adversity into art, you have demonstrated that you can be resilient too. I am glad to meet you and look forward to reading more of your work.

bob moffit

"Khali Raymond is eighteen years old, residing in Newark, New Jersey. He's an author of over forty books, a poet, and an artist. He's using his platform to share his battles with Asperger's Syndrome and daily life."

A truly remarkable young man of great personal courage and perseverance .. with a powerful message that EVERYONE should aspire to learn: "Never let your circumstances define who you are. You can be anything!"

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