Note: God rest the souls of these two youngsters with autism - drowned together in the family pool. We know families who've faced this horror. Mom woke up to find her boys not in their bed. How many times has this happened to you or a friend with a child or teen on the spectrum? It happened to my family in a hotel room. Mia slipped out the door without our knowing it. It happened to us at a party. Gianna slipped out the door without us knowing it. We found them. Alive. Many families aren't so lucky. I know parents who have slept on a cot in front of the door to protect their kids. Families use baby monitors long after the children grow up in the hopes of being alert to the patter of footsteps heading out. Alarm systems with door chimes are backward for many of us, helping to keep our kids IN the house. The monster we fear isn't a stranger - it's autism. Is there sometimes parental error and neglect? Sure. But mostly, you and I know all too well, there but for the grace of God go any one of us despite our Herculean efforts. God bless Nicholas and Anthony and their family too.
These stories illustrate the important of Mark Blaxill and Dan Olmsted's new book called, DENIAL: How Refusing to Face the Facts about Our Autism Epidemic Hurts Children, Families, and Our Future from Skyhorse Publishing. The glossification (I think I made that work up) of autism has meant a lack of concern or true understanding of the day to day grind for families. Anthony and Nicholas have no future - they drowned together. Think about that.
Three-year-old twin boys with autism drowned Wednesday morning in a Melville pool, Suffolk County Police said.
The drownings at the Holly Court home appeared to be accidental.
Law enforcement officials said the boys' mother woke up and did not see the children in their room. She found Nicholas Aurilia floating in the inground pool and pulled him out of the water. He was not breathing and his mother began to perform CPR on him, police said.
The fire department eventually found the second boy, Anthony Aurilia, still in the pool, which was murky and difficult to navigate.