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Sing, Sing a Song. Sing of Happy, Not Sad. A Tribute to Dan Olmsted

Dan awardBy Kim Stagliano

I've struggled with how to  honor Dan here at AofA.  One of the main differences between Dan and other journalists is that Dan listened. He listened to mothers telling him that their children changed post vaccination. He didn't run to his desk and write that we were vindictive lunatics looking to blame anything and everything for our kids' autism. HE LISTENED to the mothers (and fathers) and started investigating.

I have this video of my daughter singing the Carpenters' song, "Sing," made famous (at least in our house) by Sesame Street. It has been a theme song here for more than 40 decades. Mia loves it. I loved it as a girl.   During great autism struggles, when I feared for Mia's life during seizures or when she was lost during a vacation, I would think to myself, "If anything happens to her, we will play SING at her funeral." 

Instead, she is singing it here, for me, for you, for Dan Olmsted. My dear friend.  The video is 1:11 long. For those of you who follow me, you know that angel numbers play a big role in my life.  1:11.

Sing, sing a song
Sing out loud
Sing out strong
Sing of good things not bad
Sing of happy not sad.

Sing, sing a song
Make it simple to last
Your whole life long
Don't worry that it's not
Good enough for anyone
Else to hear
Just sing, sing a song.

Sing, sing a song
Let the world sing along
Sing of love there could be
Sing for you and for me.

Sing, sing a song
Make it simple to last
Your whole life long
Don't worry that it's not
Good enough for anyone
Else to hear
Just sing, sing a song.

Dan I worked together, hand in glove. I've said to a number of friends since his death, "It's like we're on a jumbo jet. I'm the co-pilot. I've been flying the plane with the pilot, taking the controls when he needed a break, with a great crew all of whom are able to fly the plane. Except now, I'm the pilot. And it feels differently. Lonely."

But I will sing, in Dan's name.  Of good things. Not bad. Of happy. Even though I am sad.

Love, Kim


Jim Thompson


I vividly remember our granddaughter hitting the remote replay button repeatedly as we watched her favorite movie Shrek 2 on DVD. It was where Shrek was riding a white horse to rescue Fiona and just as the soundtrack played:

“I need a hero ,
I'm holding out for a hero 'til the morning light,
He's gotta be sure,
And it's gotta be soon,
And he's gotta be larger than life."


The song resonates in our hearts now.


Nice! Sometimes songs or poems just say it best. I know you will all miss him a lot. He was really a class act.


A lovely young lady. Thank you for sharing.


Thank you for taking over the controls Kim. What you do is so important to so many people who find comfort, community and valuable information on this site that you manage so well. Your readers are here with you everyday. You are appreciated and loved.


Oh my heart she is so beautiful... Thank you for sharing Kim.

Tim Kasemodel

Beautiful Kim. This is one of Thomas' favorites too!
I can remember showing a picture of Thomas to Dan with his SIB bruises due to his bowel disease.
He was so empathetic.
He wrote e-mails to us throughout the process of group home placement and encouraged us to tell our story, which we did for AOA.


Jeannette we LOVE that 25th anniversary tape! Ladysmith Black Mambasa - singing - and we sing it all the time with the ululululululululululus! XOX KIM

Jeannette Bishop

Thank you Mia and mom! We get to follow, about monthly, Big Bird on quest to find La-La-ers for the final performance (Sing) on one of my daughters favorite videos. I think I'll now be reminded of Mia's beautiful voice and this tribute to Dan Olmsted each time.

Angus Files

Thanks Kim a nice beautiful tuneful voice Mia has and a beautiful tribute to Dan from Mia.

All the best for the future at AOA as the saying goes

"the King is dead long live the King".



Donna L.

No doubt, he knew you could do it all along, Kim, with King Arthur GF flour in one hand and an IEP in the other. But that doesn't ease the loneliness factor, I am sure. Hugs and love to you.

Dan Burns

Kim, I miss the "like" button.

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