Everyday we hear horrible stories about children being bullied in school. Some refer to it as an epidemic. The tactics are so much worse than when I grew up in the 70’s. You could not get an entire school to gang up on someone’s Facebook page or send a compromised picture or video of that person and have it go viral. You pretty much had only a few choices to hurt them. Whisper rumors about them to other people, which let’s face it takes time. One popular thing was to scribble something mean about them on the bathroom wall. Although you had to hope that people used the stall and actually noticed the writing.
Bullying is a horrible thing to live through especially when it involves a child. It can leave lasting physical and emotional scars. Children have even lost their lives to bullying as some get pushed over the edge and commit suicide. We here these stories everyday. Luckily there is more awareness and parents have some recourse. They can sue the school or do something more drastic like move or change schools to protect their child.
But what happens when an entire country is bullying individuals? I find that this is the case for Vaccine Bullying.
The Vaccine Bully is comprised of our entire government who doesn’t even accept that vaccines are hurting adults and children even though they secretly pay out billions of dollars in their not well disclosed Vaccine Court. Most americans barely know that it exists. People get bullied by their doctors when they are in their most vulnerable position with their baby at a check up. The doctor usually treats them like a horrible mother/father if they even question anything about vaccines. I have heard countless stories where people go in not wanting to do any vaccines and walk out after getting a few, since the doctor threatened to not treat the child anymore. I actually had this type of bullying happen to me over ten years ago.
I went to a new doctor on West 79th street. He was a highly recommended pediatrician. During the visit, I told him that I only wanted to do the Polio vaccine since I heard it was one of the more benign ones and that I was worried about giving vaccines to my 3 month old baby. He started to raise his voice and said that I need to give a more useful one like the DTaP. I said that I didn’t want to. He proceeded to speak much louder and told me “I will not stand by and watch you kill your baby”. He actually said these words to me! I left immediately as tears fired down my face. I marched right up to the receptionist and said “don’t even think of submitting this visit to my insurance, since this was not a proper doctors visit and I now have to go see another doctor”. Then I continued “tell him I will report the visit as fraud if he tries to get paid”. She looked at me shocked and kind of mumbled okay. I checked every explanation of benefits for the next 6 months. He never submitted it. I felt some vindication in my small way that I stood up to him and did not pay him for his lousy behavior. Years later I found out he married a speech therapist and became much more lax about vaccines. Hmmm wonder where the change of heart and influence came from!
Vaccine bullying also comes from school administrators who threaten to kick children out of school or not let them in. Do these people even realize that they don’t have the right to govern another person’s body?? It’s insane to me how we live these days.
I even got bullied by a cousin the other night at dinner. It was more subtle than my doctor story, but it was there front and center at the dinner table. I was at a loverly Italian restaurant eating dinner with 10 cousins of mine through marriage. We were having a good old time. Somehow the conversation about my son’s vaccine injury came up. I was telling someone seated next to me who I know well about the story how my son had a stroke after his 18 month HIB shot. My cousin seated across the table interrupted our conversation by saying “How do you know he had a stroke” in a condescending voice. I answered “we did an MRI that showed an old ischemia on it”. “Our current pediatrician said he had an apgar of 8 and 9 at birth, so there is no way it could have been then, even though that’s what the neurologist suggested as a cause. Next she said in a more questionable tone, “you can’t be sure it was the vaccine”. I answered “yes I can. He had a vaccine given at 6pm at night and the next morning he never spoke again just like what happens to an adult stroke victim”. She decided to go at me one more time with “there is no way for you to be sure”. And I said “YES! I am sure”. Then I turned my head as if she didn’t exist and continued my conversation. I felt very angry how she could even think to question me not once, but three times. If my son had broken his leg, she would never have asked me how I could be sure. It is her own brainwashed views on vaccines that caused her to try to bully me at a dinner party. It was both inappropriate and inexcusable. I have decided to forgive her ignorance for my own peace and sanity. It’s just incredible how pervasive vaccine bullying can be.
Another type of bullying comes from friends or acquaintances. I recently had someone send me a link to a book called “Neurotribes” which is about how autism has always been around and it’s just better diagnosis. I haven’t read the book but watched three minutes of the author speak. I immediately closed the link and wrote my “friend” that I find the link upsetting. I said my son was vaccine injured like many children with Autism. The authors’s book undermines what has happened to so many children like my son". This person ignored my comment. I was angry that he would not even acknowledge that the link upset me. I went at him again the next day. I explained further that "I live in a world everyday that pretends what happened to my son did not happen. I continued "when we were growing up there were not all these kids that could not walk and talk". He again ignored my message. I felt silently bullied. So I pressed on with my third and final message the following day. Here is what I wrote verbatim: "that link was more upsetting than child porn would be to me. Your insensitivity explains why you are still alone. Most people just apologize when they realize they have upset someone even if it's unintentional”. He finally said that he was sorry. I probably have not changed his views, but I believe he might think twice the next time he talks about vaccines and autism with a parent who has a vaccine injured child. And if he upsets them, maybe it won’t take 3 days to apologize.
Bullying is a terrible thing to happen to a child and especially one with a disability. But what happens when it’s an adult being bullied by an entire country and it goes unrecognized. Doctors, newscasters, politicians, parents, friends, family members are all involved in the current epidemic of Vaccine Bullying.
The CDC recently released a statement saying that autism is now 1 in 45. They then suggest that the rates have not gone up, but it’s due to "better diagnosis". Our own governmental organization is at the top of the food chain in distorting the information which is given to the people. Doctors and Scientists who know the truth say nothing out of fear of retaliation. This is exactly what is creating our perverse state of Vaccine Bullying. I purposely have left out the vaccine internet trolls, since I did not even want to give them the recognition that they don’t deserve. They are some of the most despicable group of people firing some of the nastiest online comments. It's unbelievable to me, what they feel comfortable saying to another human being, especially one with a sick child that has had an injustice done to them.
So what do we do about the problem of Vaccine Bullying. I suggest always speaking up to a bully as long as it does not infringe upon you or your child’s safety. We could write more articles on the subject to educate people. There could be a task force created to counsel those being bullied. Most of all we can stand together and support one another for a cause that affects the entire community. You would think that the world would feel some empathy for parents who have a child with vaccine induced Autism, but instead we are persecuted for standing up and warning others.
Vaccine bullying not only affects us adults but ultimately will effect our children, especially when they grow up and have to deal with it for themselves. I am hoping that the world will catch up by then.