I worked at a beach club one summer many years ago. Membership was private, very private. From what I was told, one had to be “born into” their membership which made the club more exclusive than the other private beaches in the area. Several of the members could trace their roots back to prominent businessmen and their families who were integral in the rise and success of the American Industrial Revolution. I ran into some of those members occasionally, but it was their children whom I was assigned to work with that summer.
One thing that has always stayed with me from that job at the beach wasn’t the experience of getting a peek into how the rich and famous played when money was no object; it was of an expression that my fellow camp counselors used: “You get what you get.”
That expression was stated after one of the children forgot to use their manners. One of the counselors said it as a gentle yet firm reminder to be grateful for a treat they were just offered. Popsicles, which came in three different flavors in a variety pack, were being handed out. By the time it was the last child’s turn to receive his, there was no guarantee he was going to get the flavor he wanted. Face scrunched up and ready to protest, he got a dose of reality and a reminder that to have any refreshing Popsicle on a hot summer day was a treat even if it wasn’t the exact flavor he had hoped to receive.
“You get what you get” was repeated a few times for a few days with our campers. As we eased into a routine, and as expectations were established and polite responses from the children returned, things began to run smoothly. Instead of having to harp on using nice manners, we had more time to frolic on the sand and to play in the ocean. By the time summer camp was over, we’d diminished the use of reminding the kids that “You get what you get.”
“You get what you get.” It’s a response that can work on both kids and adults. It can work in lots of places and in many situations. It could help to diffuse a behavior before it escalates. It can also be said as a quick reply to end an argument, but I find that it is more effective as that gentle yet firm reminder.
One such instance where this reminder should be said more often is in mainstream articles and on television news shows when the topic includes the measles and mumps “outbreaks”. If reporters would truly take the time to thoroughly examine why such “outbreaks” have occurred, a gentle yet firm reminder of “You get what you get” would’ve accompanied their reports.
To my knowledge, adding that reminder hasn’t happened. I will say that, surprisingly, some of the reports I’ve seen have provided some useful information, including the most important one—that the diseases being spread have originated among those who’ve been vaccinated. But, as quickly as that fact is stated, the story makes an unnecessary turn and places a mysterious and incorrect blame of the “outbreaks” on the unvaccinated.
Accusing a “legion of anti-vaxxers” for something that they play no part in is, of course, wrong, but now seems to be standard protocol. Standard protocol also includes deflecting from the truth while providing illogical synopses. Unfortunately, with that type of reporting, the media has greatly deceived its audience. Not only that, but the media and its supporters have brought unnecessary criticism to parents in the hopes of shaming them.
Instead of properly investigating and calling out the false promises of vaccines, and in making their erroneous statements about the unvaccinated, the general public has been fed mistruths about sub-standard products on today’s vaccine schedule. The general public knows not to question the media though and has placed trust in that entity that doesn’t respect them.
The general public will hopefully learn of the vaccine reality many of us have lived and realize that it is far different than the mainstream media’s version of vaccines. When that realization occurs, that firm yet gentle reminder that I learned so long ago will come in handy once again. This time, directed to the general public, they’ll discover that they get what they get because they believe what comes out of corrupt media channels.
I remember not having to say “You get what you get” quite so much at the end of the summer when I worked amongst the rich and influential and with their children at the beach. As counselors, we treated all of the children nicely and expected them to treat us with the same courtesy. We provided a safe, fun and respectful environment for them, and in a short amount of time, we found common ground with our young campers. Once boundaries were set, and once respect was established, we were all able to enjoy long summer days outdoors. Sadly, I don’t see a working relationship among the media and our community developing just yet. It can’t when the media chooses to continue to water down reality and to publish skewed vaccine-induced “outbreak” stories while also openly attacking the personal health care choices of the unvaccinated.
Cathy Jameson is a Contributing Editor for Age of Autism.