I try to find ways to communicate parents, siblings, caregivers, extended family and individuals on the Autism Spectrum experience and feelings about ASD through examples and quotes. For years now, I have used the Hashtag #FAY Feel Autism Yet? to organize and highlight these quotes from around the world and share on social media. I think the Olympics gives us examples of how different our lives are. This blog will explore and discuss just one example of the hopes, fears, dreams and lives we lead using a sports analogy.
Shaun White is an amazing Multi medal winning Olympic athlete. For the majority of his career it has been said he has shown no fear. He participates in one of the newer Olympic events, snow boarding. He was sent to Sochi Russia to represent the United States and hopefully bring home two medals in 2014. The conditions and course were so extreme in one of his events that at about 24 hours before the event he pulled out and did not compete.
I have been thinking about this for a few days. Our lives take many unpredictable twists and turns. Some are more predictable and avoidable than others. Snow boarding is a young persons game. I do not presume to tell Shaun White how to live his life but as a snowboarder he is considered the OG ( old guard ) now. Others just like in the military, are young enough not to question the danger that may be lurking on the other side of the hill and will follow the order to charge.
I can relate to the feelings of the athletes back home. That one precious spot to become an Olympic champion was forfeited. They had trained their whole career to go over that mountain, but were beat out in trials only to turn on the tv to see no U.S. representation.
As Fathers and Mothers we have hopes and dreams for our life and legacy. Parents are often attacked for this, I really don't know why and will explore that in future blogs.
In our case, Tanner was born into the world via what the medical professionals call an "unremarkable" birth receiving a 10 on the Apgar scale. Progressed on the normal scale through infancy, toddler stages only to regress at 4 1/2. This regression not only has taken him out of the one Olympic event where I imagined him on the podium getting his gold medal but every event leading up to that moment. There is a commercial playing now that rewinds back to the moment the parents first new the child had a interest and ability for their sport. It talks about all the small things that go into making an Olympic athlete. Tanner's life runs through my head every minute of every day.
I guess at this point, I have made my point. I hope I have given you a glimpse into our world. One day when they reveal the truth about the causation of Autism, I would like to run a commercial rewinding and showing all the little things lost. Prayers for all. Please share your thoughts in comments here, facebook, or Come visit with me on twitter today @TannersDad Tim
Warrior families you all deserve a gold medal.
Tim Welsh, is one of the most active and influential Parent Advocates for Autism. Avid Speaker, blogger, and Tweeter (@TannersDad). Tim works to build unity within the Autism community, Gain Insurance coverage reform, End Restraint & Seclusion, Advocate for services, prevent wandering and much more. Tim & his wife Cheri have one son Tanner (16).
“I have a son he has autism, but, I also have dream. I dare dream of a world where profound regressive autism is not only treatable, but is also preventable”