Oh, omega three amounts in fish vary as well.
The more fishy, the more omega 3.
Swaii from Vietnam I just love but it is very low in Omega 3 while Mackerel and anchovies are high.
Thank you Rose Morton

Dr. Mercola is really beating the drum for us to reduce the linolic acid found in all veggie or seed oils and has had experts on that said if you can increase Omega 3 it helps with the body try to equal all the seed oils we are eating.

Dr. Mercola says just to eat tallow or butter. I would think MCT oils too.
Mayonnaise and salad dressings are my families down fall. Even when I buy expensive made of Olive oil mayonnaise it still had vegetable oil in addition to olive oil.

Kate D; You are also right about that PANS . WE had a bad deal back a few years ago with that. Not violence, but pitiful, heart wrenching OCD and anxiety. It had been reported that year by the peds in the area that there was a variant that was causing OCD in school children . My son was in his 30s and it caused it in him He catches strep at least twice if not three times a year. HE has it right now as a matter of fact. That immune system of his just will not fight it off. Vitamin D too

The vaccines have ruined the immune system.

I urge anyone who sees a worsening of symptoms in their loved one with Autism to explore neuroimmune disorders such as PANS, PANDAS, autoimmune encephalitis, and others. A wonderful resource for information is the Neuroimmune Foundation. There are resources for parents and clinicians alike, such as:

https://neuroimmune.org/patient-and-family-resources/

https://neuroimmune.org/clinicians/pandas-medical-resources/

I have a loving daughter that has Autism severely..She is now 37 and has and has a sweet behavior that I love. But it wasn't always this way...at 13 or 14 she started getting violent episodes at least once a week. That would last a few hours. No meds could stop it..So we had to just deal with her problem the best way we could. Our autism daughter became violent to us....I would hide in the closet sometime to get away from her. The only thing that would calm her was long rides in our car... So at 3:am I could be found driving around the neighborhood. I went on-line trying to find a cure. When my daughter was 18 years I found a cure for her violent behavior..I read that 1 to 2 tablespoons of Cod Liver Oil a day would help her mood behavior...infact it's was written right on the bottle. So I started over the Summer of giving he one tablespoon every morning.. On my daughter first day of returning back to school, I recieved a message from her teacher..saying I see you gave Janaye her meds this morning...Thank God they had notice the difference and not just me. My daughter was on the Honor Roll every Month...I gave her the Cod Liver Oil for about 3 years before I stopped. And she been the same sweet person since...

Things I have learned
Seizures are not always falling down and jerking on the ground.

Seizures are not absentee seizures.

Seizures can take on some bizarre and complicated behaviors

I finished Harris coulter’s book on vaccine, brain injuries, and criminalization of America book

Heart wrenching and disturbing.

Examples of seizure behavior and Coulter said seizures may not happen often thus they are impossible to catch in even an all night or all week EEG.
At the same time they might be often but never recognized as seizures
That is they even look

And yes rage can be a seizure.

Seizures have been there lurking about since my son’s third DPT at age nine months

He had a seizure that night and it damaged fine motor skills as well as his ability to walk. He had to relearn took hom three months. Yes he was walking at nine months

Seizures got worse the older he became

He could become really upset and throw a fit for hours but no violence

He was on seizure meds until he was five

But they were always there lurking unrecognized.

First grade he peed himself at school. And I thought then?

As he came into his teens seizures became more everything. More myclonc Jerks, More abstentee seizures, more wet pants, more bite tongues,

No help went every where

Finally at age 17 after falling down and breaking his nose the EEG caught the seizure.

Seizure meds won him his senior year the most improved student award

He got himself into a community. I was not going to let him go

He finally got his drivers license

He is now 35
His seizure meds last year we think lowered his immune system so strep caused OCD
Nothing helped for months. Till we went Keto. The very next day he was better

He has been off of seizure meds for a year
There is some high anxiety there for him
17 years ago I shared the story of my son!s vaccine injury with A woman sitting in the health department

She said the same happened to her son. He was older than mine.

She said he stopped having seizures but had panic attacks.

I would say panic attacks are seizures

I wonder and I think that seizures comes in a lot of forms. Harris Coulter sure thought so too

I think that seizures are caused not by electrical storms in the brain And I know there are brain injuries and seizures.

But maybe this occasional seizure is inflammation of the Vaal nerve?

If we can control the inflammation

That’s all I have to say. No set facts just thoughts

Great Doreen delighted to read that all the best to your laddie from Scotland.

Pharma For Prison

MMR RIP

Hello all,

Thank you for sharing. I can’t believe I’m not alone here. My severely autistic nonverbal son has started attacking me and I’m so terrified he will kill me. When a meltdown occurs his eyes go black and he cant manage to stop it whatsoever to the point where he becomes a tiger. My leather car seats are ripped all thE way through and was asked at the car wash if I own a pit bull! He bites so hard that he tears My skin through a carhart thick Hoodie jacket I wear for protection. God help us all.

I will give my update. Editors; the comments here should be published somehow in an ongoing documentary, on a venue with high reader volume. I would appear in a televised PSA. I would welcome a camera crew into my home.

Anything to combat this 'neurodiverse narrative' of the delightfully spectrummy children whose parents 'hate them'. I'm convinced that this is a ploy by the pro-vaccine; exploiting vulnerable, high-functioning ASD young adults into portraying the 'I don't want to be cured' meme.

Luke is now 15, 6'3" & 220. His clenched fists come at me about 100 times per day. Last week while I was pumping gas he grabbed his 17-year-old sister around the neck & choked her almost to unconsciousness. On a long car trip a few weeks ago, out of desperation, I pulled over, grabbed a roll of packing tape & restrained his arms to his body, his feet together, clicked him in his seat belt & was able to safely drive down the highway.

Unless you would like to be in the vehicle I could have otherwise slammed into head-on at 70mph, after his size 15EE foot kicks me unconscious? Don't judge.

He has begun to perseverate on violence. Watching the clock in the car roll over for each minutes change, he threw a punch. It was a 45-minute drive. "Fourteen, Fifiteen & Sixteen mean punchy", he says.

His meltdowns at school last year necessitated evacuations. He has a new school now. One with an 8-foot high fence around the perimeter, locked doors & security cameras.
A Blue Team; comprised of many very large men who wear radios & Observation & Recovery rooms. I wish I had a Blue Team. Or even a room to lock me into.

I refuse to consent to off-label psychotropic prescribing for him, as there is a chance that without them; his brain may change in his 20s & his behaviors will deescalate. With them, the case histories suggest he would require permanent institutionalization.

Yesterday I started him on 5 mg THC gummies (I'm in Colorado) & today he has only thrown less than 10 punches. A HUGE improvement. Again, judge me at your own potential peril; he does not discriminate with his victims of violence. I have only one goal; to avoid all repercussions that might lead to institutionalization, therefore lowering his quality of life & I will stop at nothing to avoid this.

Don't give up. Get mad. Not at your child but towards those that caused this. Do what you have to do, to make sure they don't get not one more piece of your child.

As I’m laying here wondering what to do with my 9 year old son on the spectrum who is violent and almost my same size that is almost stronger than me. I’ve had more issues with trying to get any sort of real help with him. I’m a single mother of 3 and my oldest left for college last year and as if my life hadn’t already gone through some very difficult changes for someone with out the challenges of having an autistic child. Like losing my father, my everything the only person who I had for any type of support mentally. Along with finding out he had stage 4 cancer within weeks of his mother passing away, (my grandmother but filled in as mom since mine became mentally ill when I was little.)The town home I was renting asked me how I was gonna fix my kid and proceeded to kick us out not once taking into consideration the damages that come along with moving a child like mine. This wasn’t a privately owned one either this was supposed to be affordable housing with certain rules they had to follow. This property manager completely destroyed my rental history by filing evictions on me because of her mistakes, and her changing her mind on a payment plan and then some how won in court after openly admitting to saying the didn’t have to make accommodations they were independent living. Followed by the question of how am I going to fix my kid, and ended with I no longer fit their criteria to rent! So I was going to be homeless my father who sacrificed everything to raise the 5 of us on his own was just diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and my older son was staying with my sister for the summer and she was willing to keep him there till I found a place and I had things in the works for my autistic son to go to safe families and I would then take my daughter who was in high school with me to live with my dad and take care of him. That’s when the worthless sperm donor of father to my two boys called me crying begging to let him take the boys he will quit his job that he has to travel for come back take the boys and get a local job! Well he came back alright but what he did was nothing like he said he would. At some point he had gone behind my back made friends with the guy I had been seeing who was a friend of mine for 6 years prior to this, I absolutely loved this man he made very happy he loved my boys and my daughter. He had gone through a nasty divorce and when the sperm donor decided to see if he could get this man to believe I was a horrible mother I was evil and doing things to him that this guys ex wife was doing to him unfortunately he fell for it at first. And that’s when the two of them it would be funny to tell me they had experimented with one another. Not once did this guy take his boys so I could help with my father or so that my father could get a break from the chaos of me living with him with my autistic son. Since my daughter moved out for college I’ve been slowly losing everything because I can’t get anyone to babysit overnightbfor 3-5 hours so I can work. My landlord sold the dump I had been renting for the last 3 years and my autistic son and myself have been mostly living in my truck and hotel at night here and there when can I scrape up the money. I had things going in the right direction for a few weeks I found an extended stay hotel with lots of people who were willing to help me by either babysitting so I could work or just emotional support. That didn’t last but two weeks when the manager refused service to me after I requested not move to a different room it wasn’t worth having a tv I would prefer to go without until the one he had supposedly ordered when I checked in and was told it would be a couple days but he would give me a discount for the inconvenience. So back to the truck we went and back to not being able to work. Today I totaled my truck I rear ended someone, I have always been a very cautious driver and the only accidents that involved me hitting someone or something were weather related. Traffic came to a screeching hault and I was watching the road I don’t know how I didn’t see the car in front of me stop. With the lack of money I had to let my insurance lapse so now I’m really screwed not like it would have been more than liability, but now I’m going to be in trouble and in even more debt. My son and I really have no where to go now and no way to get anywhere how could I have been so careless and not noticed the car stopping? I have been begging the school social worker, the county, his case worker, child protection and even the hospital where he has been admitted to for mental health for help for a break I can’t do this alone I need to get my head somewhat back to normal after the three horrible life altering issues. I have called the cops repeatedly because he beats me up he beats his brother up and all the day is tell him to not hit us and give him a sticker and leave. The most recent encounter with police I called them saying I needed help I can’t handle this anymore I’m at my breaking point we are living in my truck that had broken down earlier in the week and I said needed a mental break I wanted to go check myself in i my son would have to go to foster care. The were so sure of themselves when they said I wouldn’t get admitted and he wouldn’t go into foster care just because I needed a mental break, ever parent needs a mental break! And they wouldn’t bring us to the hospital and didn’t offer to call medics or anyone else. I can’t try and accomplish anything with my son along because everything is a game he wants to be chased or he is screaming and causing a scene and hitting me and even others around. I don’t think anyone will realize just how badly I need the help and the break till it’s too late and I end my own life!

Oh God! I am not alone! My 14 year old ASD, ADD, unspecified anxiety disorder, genetic deletion son is 6 foot, 210 pounds, and get more aggressive and destructive each day. The local autism center....well....they are like a preschool with their sweet "well...blah...blah...try essential oils (not really), but that is how helpful they are with their simpering voices and no real help. How do I keep my child out of jail? Is there a drug that will help? And, my other child....he really has nightmares that my 14 year old will KILL us all when the internet goes out! I have no idea what to do! We are a nice family...no drug abuse, no spousal or child abuse. I am afraid, and I love him!

I have an 18 year old autistic son. He can get very violent and it scares me because he is bigger than me. I have had him in therapy since he was 7. Anger and aggression do not get better. I have found one thing that works, CBD oil. It is a miracle worker. I have him take it in the morning before school and in the evening after school. That has really helped. He still has tantrums but they are less severe and less often. Also, if I can recognize the tantrum coming, I can get him to take another dose and it helps. Hope this helps anyone. It has helped me some.

My family is in the same boat as everyone else and no help or solutions. My Autistic Son started hitting us this year he's 13. We are not a 100% sure what started this violent behavior since he was being abused by a school Teachers aid last year till another aid had witnessed the aid attacking my Son also he has started puberty so we are not sure what exactly or if both triggered his violent behavior. Help for all of us families coping with our Autistic Son or Grandson or sibling, etc.

I am a parent of a 16 yr old aggressive, autistic boy. He is a large man sized toddler with high pain tolerance . We here have been at the end of our rope for a long time but love our son so much and always have so much hope the next thing we try will have "miraculous" results. I have felt like I live in 1940 with the amount of help there is available to my son being he is big and aggressive and frankly...why would anyone want to deal with him?? People are mean and rude and if you don't have to deal with this kind of situation, if it is not YOUR CHILD ....well, it must be your poor parenting skills or lack of discipline that caused this problem. I have a 21 yr old son also on academic scholarship to our local University. He is the kindest, most laid back, most patient gentle soul I have met. We attempted to raise them the same. My autistic son has been the center of the whole family. We are so sad and fearful. I know my son's behaviors are really the same since he was 2...the difference is he is now a HUGE man! I am a nurse, I waited as long as I could to put him on meds. He is now on 4 heavy meds and we really do not see much of a difference and we have changed them a little to see if that helped. I really feel like Im loosing hope. I just do not know where to turn anymore.

I have a 24 year old adopted son who has become violent in the last eight years. There is only one solution, physical restraints. Something that allows them to move their arms but not enough movement to attack. It needs to be waterproof and have the ability to be remotely tightened. They cannot stop themselves something else must do it.

I have a two year old son that we stay with my brother in law his wife and child. Their child is on the autism spectrum with a sensory disability. I am patient and careful with him but his mother refuses to parent him or teach him. He acts out violently towards myself and my son. I know that I can’t say anything because if I do all I hear is, “ it’s the autism” but she refuses to deal with the way he’s responding and ignores it all together. I understand what the child is doing. I mean just today she allowed he son to have a table fork and stab my son in the eye, not only once but twice and she ignored it, and was very upset when I pushed a table in between the two children to separate them. I’m about to lose my shit I know there are plenty of children out there with autism that get picked on or bullied but I’m seeing an accountability issue with some that are creating autistic children that are bullies and violent because they aren’t getting the attention they need from their parents

@Foster, I am sorry to hear your situation but please know that I, and many others, unfortunately understand it. There are very few supports out there for those of us with adult children with medical issues plus violent behaviors. Most decent adult support focuses on those who are non violent and can participate in a day program with little or manageable behaviors. Even parents of other adult individuals on the spectrum do not understand what it is like to live with the violence towards others from the adult "children." So unless you can find a good day program that accepts the aggression (most do not) or are rich enough to afford constant round the clock ABA therapists or aides or have parents rich enough to provide that money to you so you can afford it then we are in the same boat. No vacations ever. No appropriate day programs. No fun outings. No opportunities for the family. It is really terrible for these adults and their families.

Your son is 16 so hopefully you can get the school district to increase services and find some appropriate help before your son ages out of the system. Good luck.

I am a teacher at Accel Centre and teach special needs education to children and adults with autism spectrum.
The road down there is a tough one as you have to deal with the behavioral seizures and several tantrums and the adults with autism sometimes behave like a toddler.
ASD Autism Spectrum Disorder is a developmental disability which occurs in the Neural system of humans that serves broader behavioral purposes at a very young age.
Neural system is collectively associated with the vision or hearing complex sensory systems.
Experts now believe that the autism spectrum is diverse in nature and many causes such as neurobiology and clinical presentations can lead to autism. This can make it challenging for Board Certified Behavior Analyst to accurately assess a specific child’s abilities.
Individuals with autism spectrum disorder don’t necessarily express anger, fear or other emotions in the same way as other children.
They can sometimes express these feelings through aggressive behavior toward other children. They might hit, kick, throw objects or hurt themselves.
At such times, I usually switch to another activity and give proper attention to them.

While there are no solutions, I finally feel a connection. I'm not alone? Others are dealing with this too? I am a single mother, my son is 5'6 and 125 right now. He kicked me so hard in my back that he cracked 3 vertebrae. Every day I'm on the receiving end of kicks and punches. We have to feed, clean, and love a child who only reciprocates with violence. What is this life? This is not a life. This is hell.

I am a teacher of autistic children, ages 3-22. As the statistics report, the vast majority of my children on with ASD's are not violent. But there are some who are, and it can be very severe. It does often escalate badly with boys at puberty in kids who struggle with this. I too have loved a little boy to death, all of a sudden to realize in the teens that I am suddenly afraid of this young man who is bigger than I am, outweighs me by a lot, and is grabbing me around the neck, hitting me, kicking me, or throwing me across a room. I have many, many resources for dealing with aggression, and so far they have always worked, but it does take time. It doesn't happen over night. The day may come when my teaching strategies fail, but for now, in case it helps, here's what works for me: a combination of zero tolerance for aggression and an analysis of the tantrums to see what the function is, then negating that function so the tantrum doesn't work. Some examples are:

STOPPING ALL ATTENTION: If attention makes the tantrum worse, I take ALL attention away - no eye contact, no words, no touch, I won't even turn my face in their direction. I walk away and ignore until the child self-regulates, calms himself back down, and STAYS calm for quite a while - at least 10-15 minutes. Many a time, I have had to wait through 45 minutes of raging then another 30 minutes to get to this fully calm stage, then another 15 minutes of maintenance of the calm. It's hard to do, but nothing else works if the tantrum is fueled by attention.

CALMING ANXIETY/FEAR/SENSORY OVERLOAD: If the student is afraid and using soothing language and squeezing hugs calms then down slowly, I do this. I jump right in, ignore the aggression, get my mouth very close to the ear on their most responsive side, sing or talk very softly right into the ear, pull them onto my lap, rock and hold, while tapping with a finger or two on their arm. I'm trying to use all sensory modalities to give them something calming to focus on, that obliterates all outside sensory stimuli so they only see, hear, feel, smell me in my most calming mode.

DIVERTING FROM AGITATION IN EARLY STAGES: Many times in the initial stages, rapid diversion to something that builds self-esteem works like magic. For me, that means something with a high vocabulary or academic level. These kids have normal cognitive ability deep inside their paralyzed brains, and it's important to tap into that deepest, intelligent part of them. Show them you believe in them, know who they really are. I've completely turned kids around with this! I talk to them like they are exactly the age they are, using full adult vocabulary and thoughts, and often their aggression stops instantly. The first time I do this with a new student, I often get full, long eye contact, a big smile, and hear an actual sigh of relief. Don't dumb-down your language - rev it up! This only worst at the very earliest signs of agitation though, while they are still thinking rationally. Once a full melt-down develops, you can't talk to them rationally for a while.

These are the main things I use. I have other things I do with individual kids once I know them well and know their quirks. I don't know if it will help anyone else, but in case it does, I thought I would post.

where are the answers? I know single a mom who has a very large son; 19 years old, 6 feet tall, 320 pounds, autistic, and 100% deaf. has a melt down almost daily, violence is getting worse as time goes on. been on all types of medication and nothing is slowing this trend. she has tried respite houses and other places, but his size and behavior tend to scare them off of even giving him a chance. his violence isn't contained to the home as he had a melt down last week and directly fought his way to her to punch her in the face with about 200 people watching as her and her 28 year old sister tried to calm him down in public. his violence has worsened since puberty as his size has increased and he knows he is pretty much un-stoppable. this women has tried every agency known, been through various coordinators at the county and state level, but to no avail. she feels helpless. what type of housing is available for her son; whereas she, her 11 year old son, and the rest of her family can actually feel safe on a daily basis. she needs help desperately. thank you.

My son is 18 he is intellectually disabled/MR he also is autistic. He used to be happy....i always said yes Matt has his problems but at least he is happy....then in 2011...my brother, his uncle either committed suicide or was murdered. We got the news as the extended family was gathering for Christmas dinner. It was a horrible scene with lots of crying and screaming. Matt had a nervous breakdown and lost 30 pounds...Now he has regressed in every area..he is very violent towards mainly me as I am the one that has to try to make him do whatever... his mother quit her job to take care of him during the day while I'm at work.... I come home and take over...he refuses to do anything without my constant prompts...which means I do his shower and I help him with all his personal care. If things do not go perfect he stomps up and down...he has busted the floors all over the house. He has cracked the bottom of the shower. He hits me as I try to restrain him. We can not get anybody to help us.....I have had to board up some of the windows..because if he sees someone walk by on the road he goes into a rage....if he sees a dog outside it is another rage... I have built 8 foot fences around the front and back door to prevent him from seeing something that will set him off.... it has helped some. But he is getting worse...he loses track of the steps in any process..showers take forever because he keeps thinking he hasn't washed this or that and wants to start over....His Mother and I are at the end of our rope....we have a young daughter. Noone can come to our house. We had to take him out of school due to the fits. I am 50 and he is 200 lbs and I find myself unable to hold him lately when he melts down...and starts lashing out at me. I need help we live in TN if anybody can help me.....we can't keep this going . I don't know what to do. No place will help us. God help us please.

Hi I am a step mother to a soon to be 13 year old moderately autistic boy. He cannot communicate well. He can answer very simple questions but the sentence has to be as short as possible otherwise he just repeats what you said. He has autism aggression issues also. When my boyfriend and I first started dating thid child was calm and sweet. Very easy to handle. Now that he's hitting puberty (quickly at that) hes become increasingly more aggressive but mainly to me and our two smaller and younger children. Right now he's only about an inch shorter than I am. A couple days ago I was getting them ready for school and noticed he seemed slightly agitated even though hes normally okay in the mornings. He acted out a bit by throwing things across the room when asked not to do something (normal for him) and I calmed him down and asked him to pick up the said object. I always do so calmly because anything else aggravates the situation. Everything was fine. In the car the kids have their preferred seats due to the prder they get out of the car, justin (the autistic son) was told to go to the other side. Everything was okay although he was slightly startled. Then he threw a glass bottle from the floor board in the back seat to the front where my child was sitting and almost hit her in the head. I plainly and calmly say to him "we don't throw things." He then tries to throw something else so I quickly say "no". My mistake. Big mistake! The meltdown starts. He almost always starts stomping his feet, screaming in a high pitched tone, biting his own hands, covering his face, shaking uncontrollably, punching the car seats, jumping up and down, and last but not least head butting whatever his head can reach. This time I turned to look at him, in a panic obviously because how can I send him to school in meltdown mode? That's right. I can't. So I sit quietly to see if he will start calming down and I told his younger brother to scoot over. I was afraid he woukd get hit in the midst of the fit. So he did. Then, when I did not react how Justin thought I should, he reached forward and smacked the absolute hell out of my arm 6 to 7 times as hard as he could. At this point I was staggered by shock. Hes never hit me before. Only himself and inanimate objects. So I managed to stay calm. I moved to the back seat where he was. My daughter ran and got his giant stuffed olaf, who Justin speaks through and uses to communicate for him. Olaf calms justin. Then my younger step son ran and got his jacket (for body hugging) because its fluffy and fits close to his body. I sat in the backseat and held him. This seemed to help. He began to calm. Then olaf helped some more. He was still pouty and whiny but I took them all to get breakfast at McDonald's before school. I know I shouldn't have reinforced the bad behavior but what do you do when its right before school. He had to be calm before I could send him. The rest of his day was good. He has a fantastic teacher who he loves dearly and his father and I do also. But the point of my story is, I'm becoming afraid of him. I was never afraid of the meltdowns or tantrums before. I'm the adult, hes the child. Whats to be afraid of. But now that he's growing and hitting puberty and is almost as big as I am, I'm afraid that he's going to seriously hurt me when I have to tell him no. We had him on risperadol before and it worked okay. Until they switched him to a generic at the pharmacy and then back again to the name brand. It messed it up and it stopped working. He also takes medicine to sleep, otherwise he wouldn't at all. Since the last doctors visit we have changed his medicine to ability which has been found to help really well with autism aggression. So far it has been okay but there have been more outbursts on the new meds. I don't think its the medicine though. I believe it has more to do with raging hormones. Which everything I've read here has done nothing but terrify me more. I'm scared hes going to hurt me or one of our younger children aged 8 and 9. Don't know what to do. Not sure he understands most of what we say. I'm scared this is becoming a new pattern and a small preview of what's to come.

To the person in the article with the one-year-old daughter and sixteen-year-old brother-in-law with autism:

First, I am so, so sorry. Autism like this profoundly changes the thinking and behavior of those around the person. Many respond by not "rocking the boat," and whenever something goes wrong, family members can go at it about what caused it. I'm so sorry.

Second, you *must* protect your daughter. I know it's unimaginably painful to have to protect a child from another family member who, to a degree, cannot help all of his behavior--I have a sibling with severe autism. However, this is a non-negotiable.

Maybe your wife will be open to seeing a counselor who's had experience with this, personal or professional (if she is like me, she may be annoyed at the idea that someone who doesn't know autism has something to "teach" her, so you'll need to choose carefully). Ultimately, though, if your wife won't protect your daughter, you must, and you will have to get out of that situation.

Again, it profoundly changes the psyches of the people close to the person with autistic aggression. My own parents don't think normally, which they can't help, but they need to pursue healthier living and stop taking on my sibling's disability as THEIRS, and allow and arrange for professional help.

It sounds as though your wife's family needs this too. I hurt for your little girl, for all of you. Praying for you.

I'm 20 Years Old with High Functioning Autism. A lot of people are saying that i'm violent and abrasive. I have very low self esteem and Anxiety. I usually get violent when someone that i'm very interested in being their friend has no interest in me at all.

You can read more about me in these 2 forums:
http://wrongplanet.net/forums/memberlist.php?mode=viewprofile&u=113354
https://www.aspiescentral.com/members/ephraim-becker.16496/

I am another with autism who is posting from experience. I get violent but I feel HORRIBLE, so bad I can stop talking for days. I hate myself and I hate my autism. it is not a a gift. I love my parents. We are NOTTTT doing this to manipulate!!! We have terrible lives. I l can't be around anyone, cannot eat or sleep. And Drs say it is a difference? NOT.

I love my family so much. We are in as much pain as you are! Those who say we are manipulating you are wrong. Maybe some autistics do but most of us are so very sensitive. We hate ourselves especially when we "grow up" but are still kids in a noisy adult world which reminds us every day that we are stupid, weird, worthless, and disabled. Live like us for 30 years and see how many times YOU have an outburst. Probably more than me.

I have a twenty year old high functioning autistic son who is increasing violent, He no longer lives with us because of this (I'm paying rent for him to live elsewhere) I have two younger children who have been traumatized and feel that I haven't protected them from him. He goes through cycles and as long as he gets his way, he is usually fairly calm. The minute someone says no, a switch flips. He has physically attacked, verbally abused, threatened, destroyed our home, and nothing helps. I've tried countless meds, therapists, etc.... What do I do? Where do I get help? How do we go on? ...and on top of that I feel so guilty because there is nothing I can do.

KKing. I am a retired piano teacher, and many of my students were autistic to varying degrees. I heard of some whose teaching assistants would whistle or sing during lessons. I heard of another whose assistant wore very strong perfume. I also saw a TV programme on ABA in which a child was being shouted at to not vomit.
Autism is not a behaviour problem which needs therapy, its medical and needs to be understood. If those who care for these children don't know that they can be allergic to perfumes, can't concentrate while being distracted , and don't choose to vomit just for the fun of it, then I'm not surprized if they respond with anger. So would I.

I am an ABA therapist who was recently working with a 6 year old. This child has autism along with a few other diagnoses as well-- This child has been defiant with almost everything I present to him-- whethers it's choices, demands, new toy etc. He is very verbal and basically just tells me he hates me and hurls verbal insults and swears at me and will mutter other unpleasant things as well. He will hit me, kick me, jump on me......It's been very challenging. Some of my days with him are great and he will enjoy the activities we are doing, and then bam it's like he turns on a switch. So Jekyll and Hyde. I'm not sure if he is getting the correct help......and they will be taking me off this client.

I feel very sorry for this child and family and truly hope they can get the help they need. But I also wonder what will happen as this child gets older.

Depression and anxiety, imo, play a huge role in meltdowns (or tantrums, whatever you wish to call it). They act out violently as a way of gaining control when you restrict their obsessions. Just something to think about...

My 16yo daughter is just in the 3% so called violent autistic adolescents. She has curved our lives for the worse. Destroyed our new home putting holes in the wall... threatening suicide and descriptions of how she will murder us all...her lil 12yo brother...my fiance..and myself..her own mom..then laughs about it. We hide all the knives...oh. and the most embarrassing part is the cops and ambulance at our house every week. She stays inpatient in a ward for a week and is let go. With us scared for our lives.
I've reported this time and time again. But NO SERIOUS ACTION TAKES PLACE. I FEEL ONE OF US WILL BE DEAD BEFORE SOMEONE WAKES THE FUCK UP. The cops out here know it's her abusing me bc she has no marks on her WHILE I'm covered in blood from her digging nails in my skin and bruises and black eyes. She even twists my nipples until their purple and very painful. I'm so affected as is my son. No one will take her
Even her biological father. It's so hard I am losing my sanity. Someone help me!

Find my daughter a home.

Ladies and gentlemen, I am a 38 year-old woman with Autism Spectrum Disorder. I am high functioning, but am currently unemployable because of my worsening aggression and violent behavior. I may not speak for all patients with Autism, but I can certainly speak for myself. My mother and father are also high functioning Autistics. My youngest two children are also high functioning Autistics. My oldest son has ADHD, my estranged husband has extremely advanced Defiance Disorder. My sister has Bipolar Disorder. Let me explain that moderately and high functioning Autistics can be F****** BULLIES! We are absolutely manipulative despite our intermittent bouts of loving and caring expressions. Our aggression can only be matched with equal aggression. We will only stop hurting you if we know you can kick our a** or kill us. Period. This is not a joke. The only thing that stopped my husband and I and my dad and I from killing each other is knowing that we could both kill each other with our bare hands (or whatever was near by). I know this is not an answer that people are looking for, but it does serve as an explanation (at least for my family's and my behavior). Autism is about lack of ability to express one's self, triggers, brilliance, and most of all... violence. I am medication resistant (minus marijuana... I do not suggest you give your kids weed, I'm just speaking) and therapists are afraid of me. My bosses and coworkers are afraid of me. I will only calm down if I know the person in front of me has a calmness or aggression in them with a look in their eyes that they will hurt or kill me if I don't freaking calm down... right now! My family has to use a "prison-like respect" atmosphere... "You respect me or I will hurt you." Sad to say but true. Ready for a cure... NOW!!!

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I'm a 15 year old teenager with a 12 year old brother who has autism. They say hes not that severe on the autism scale, and at first look you would think so. He can walk and talk and communicate fairly well (until the tantrums start). I first got to know him as my little brother who loved playing video games. But now hes become different. My brother has tantrums and often, if not always, becomes violent in almost every way. Weather it be hitting, kicking, smacking, you name it. And the things he says during his tantrums are just as hurtful, often using terrible language like "I'M GONNA KILL YOU (or himself)!!!" or "YOUR ARE A (insert bad word here) !!!!!" Often in public places. I rarely see that sweet little brother anymore. Lately he's just been plain nasty to be around. He has also got us in a never ending blackmail situation where its do what I want or I make your life hell. If we dare try to make him do something for himself (which he totally can do) or saying no to something he wants, he then throws a tantrum which by the end of it you would have rather just done what he wanted. My parents try there hardest to help but they are just as lost as me on what to do. We took him to behavior therapy looking for anything that could help. We were not looking for a magic cure because we knew there wasn't one but we were expecting they could at least do something. But it turns out all they did was take our money and give us a useless plan that we did try to put into effect. I don't know if we didn't try hard enough or what but hes only gotten worse since then and sue me for saying this but i think we deserved a lot more that what we got! Their basic answer in the packet was pretty much to just always say no. YOU THINK WE HAVEN'T ALREADY TRIED THAT!?!?! So now while those people are counting their money my brother is attacking us for who knows what.
When the tantrums done and everyone is crying in their rooms I come looking for help on the internet but all i find are more sad story's telling about the same problem but none of them offering any solutions and I'm tired of it!!! I'M TIRED of finding more problems than solutions! I'M TIRED of crying in my room while listening to my parents being hurt by my brother! I'M TIRED of society feeling bad but not helping people like me! I'M TIRED of living in fear of the next tantrum and wondering what might happen! I'M TIRED of not being able to do anything about it!
I don't see much of my real brother anymore, the one who loved to play games, and was always so creative, and always so sweet... I'm still trying to love him but if it doesn't get better i don't know if i can. Society wake up! its obvious that there needs to be a change but your to scared to try it! And the longer it takes for you to change the worse it will get. Please people, don't ignore me any longer. Think about it for as long as you want because I cant keep asking any longer, because...

I'm tired.

I want to say that I have a 20 yr old Autistic son who has started to turn violent these past two years. He does not communicate at all! He used to use the bathroom in his pants, but now I take care of him fulltime as my job and have worked with him to sit and use it. For those who can't get a job because nobody will care for them while you work, in some states you can become a certified provider and get paid by the county to care for your disabled son, daughter, or family member. They need a waiver which can be difficult to get especially if they are under 18. I begged, cried, pleaded with the county to please push this waiver through because I was running out of resources and would have to give him up to the state because nobody could watch him while I worked. I have a 10 yr old typical developing daughter I have to support too and couldn't not work. I'm a single mother because I divorced their father three years ago, and he knew it would make my life more difficult by not helping me, hoping I would come back. Now, I believe his violent outbursts are due to him needing to use the bathroom. Maybe constipation, so I started giving him more fiber, and will sit him on the toilet until he has a bowel movement. This seems to calm him down once he has one. He has never went after anyone, but gets so upset that he screeches and rocks rapidly back and forth. I have to walk away sometimes for 5-10 min because it gets overwhelming. I hear comments all of the time about how it must be nice to get paid to watch your own son, but you walk a day in my shoes and see if you could handle it. Even for just an hour. I earn every damn penny of it, believe me. Some say he's my meal ticket because of this, but I'm not a lazy ass who livdon'tf of welfare because I don't qualify for it and pay my own bills and go to school. I know I won't always be able to care for him, and need a backup plan. In ohio, the waiting list for a waiver is 2 yrs+. I didn't have that time to wait, so after all of the crying I did they put it through as an emergency waiver. Still, it took 6 months for all of the paperwork to go through. I thank God everyday for my mother who helped me. My parents told me they would help as much as they could once I got divorced. I just wanted to vent, and give information to people who has lost hope or almost there. I cry at least 3 days a week because of the stress, but I am strong and will get through this. Love to all parents/family who have a violent child/adult with autism because it takes special people to be able to live with a person with a disability.

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I babysit an 8 year old boy with autisim, when he gets angry he will attack me and I don't know what to do.

Hi. My heart goes out to all of you who have posted here describing the agony dealing with autism induced physical aggression.
My daughter is now 16. From the age of 12 until 15 her aggression was living hell. I'm a solo-parent. I moved us out to NJ for a good school. I have no close friends or family out here. Did I mention hell? It got so bad I placed her in a residential program. BUT THERE IS GOOD NEWS: I've followed the science carefully and put my daughter on an anti-inflammatory dietary supplement; ANATABLOC. You guys - the physical aggression stopped. Within a month I was able to take her off the atypical anti-psychotic (She gained 65.lbs on those) She became so stable I brought her home after less than a year in residential. OH I was traumatized, so I was afraid. BUT you guys, since August she's been home and it's been wonderful. The FDA put pressure on the manufacturer, and they suspended sales. I've created a website: www.bringbackanatabloc.org to get the FDA to change their decision on this. I'll be providing information on how you too can get Anatabloc before the FDA moves. Rosie is back in her old school - and they can't believe the difference. On the website I don't describe just how much it was living hell, just how afraid and despondent I was. Her on AOA - I know you all can "get it" and you don't judge me or my daughter for it. Also, I'm reluctant to "go public" about this aspect of our children - we want them to be included in society. Please go to the website. Stay strong. THERE IS HOPE!

I work with the family of an adolescent with Autism. She only self harms accidentally but her violent outbursts are becoming increasingly dangerous to others. Many of the commenters have addressed unplanned rages due to frustration. What concerns me as much, or more so,is her demonstrated capacity to make a plan and carry it through. She is capable of clearly verbalizing her wishes when she wants something although her verbal expression is telegraphed and ungrammatical unless I insist on a full sentence before acknowledging her request. If she does not get her desire (that 5th banana, 4th shower, to go outside in the snow sans shoes,to work with me on her school work, etc.)there can be extremely violent outbursts.
Recently she wrote a step by step plan to get a kitchen knife and kill her tutor (grammatically correct and numerically ordered). Several weeks later she did attack the tutor with a knife that she deliberately obtained ahead of time, and it was only fortune that kept this from becoming a tragedy. This twist to her inability to empathize or see the lives of others as anything other than facilitators/impediments to her desires has me frightened in ways that her unplanned rages do not.
This planned behavior has me very concerned for the welfare of the other family members and those she is in contact with. Has anyone else dealt with this type of planned mayhem?

Life saving advice for the *DANGEROUS FLIGHT RISK** from the mother of a lightening bolt. So many of us are single parents, abandoned over time to care for our adult child alone. To be prepared for any emergency situation my advice is, at bedtime dress your loved one in a pull-up(double if needed)only. An adult in a diaper won't be going unnoticed for long. Wandering adults with special needs will be mistaken for intoxicated if noticed at all until they walk into on coming traffic. All my love to every special person, be safe & remember the meek shall inherit the earth. We'll keep pressure on the IRC for lasso lesson or an acrylic bubble:)

Ok great so many of us have aggressive autistics.. what do we do about it? Is there not any help at all for us? Am I not allowed over my mothers house in fear my sister may seriously injure my 1 and 3 year old daughters?? She has bit me damaged the nerves in my arm, scratched my arms up leaving permanent scars down my arms, she likes to pinch mine and my moms breasts when attacking it got worse after she was in a home she never just attacked anyone till after that place she was kicked out we found out they were going behind my moms back and uping her meds. We are worried she may have been mentally/verbally abused there aswell.

Dear very tired in las vegas,

Hi. I am one of the writers here as I have a daughter very affected - gi issues, agitation, aggression...and also autoimmune dx, severe reflux, pandas/pans....it may be helpful to read more on our site about those issues and hopefully find a doctor who is fluent in autism/bacterial/immune issues....

Best,

Teresa

http://www.medicaldaily.com/autism-linked-bacteria-stomach-affects-brain-283326

http://www.ageofautism.com/2014/05/the-microbiome-could-it-be-the-epicenter-of-autism.html

http://www.ageofautism.com/2014/01/dear-autism-and-pandaspans-researchers-listen-to-the-parents.html

a. i have a non verbal 18 year old son with autism that is severely autistic and aggressive. i use the term aggressive b/c violent doesn't fit the crime.. it is always "steps and in laws" that usually feel picked on.. deep down inside they do wish the person could just get a good old fashion spanking b/c they act like a 2 year old.. its been tried.. it works temporarily and then the autistic makes the connection "do what i'm told to do when beaten, but otherwise"... when they are taught to listen b/c it is the right thing to do.. then you've cut your uphill battle in half.. it is an uphill battle b/c just like higher functioning autistics they just want to please and get kudo's and they just want something to do that they like to do. it takes an incredible amount of patience and time to get this right. you also have to pick your battles and you have to let them get away with some stuff but they get no happy interaction when they act like they are not listening. they CAN comprehend that they are different and that its not fair.. they are imprisoned by their bottles and they do "lose it" from time to time, with tossing things and acting out. but i just learned something recently that blew my mind!!!! head banging, tantrums, breaking car windows with their heads b/c they didn't get the toy they wanted.. most likely is a SEIZURE! i would never ever ever ever ever ever have believed.. if someone had told me this ONE YEAR AGO... i would have laughed my fool head off.. then the day came.. my son was incredibly upset about something, i was exhausted from holding him down.. (he is 18 and big) and when he finally calmed down.. he did the strangest thing.. he held his head back real far and his eyes rolled up.. and stayed there. he was completley aware the whole time and wanted me to make it stop. i took him to the hospital by the time i got there it was over.. the doctor was absolutely no help and sent me home. this happened again the next day.. and i noticed, the only thing different those two days in my tiny home was that i had started using a flourescent light.. so i turned it off the next day.. no seizure.. no bad behavior AT ALL... he was great all day.. the next day i turned it on.. meltdowns, begging to go to teh store, throwing things.. then one of these dystonia seizures.. (can be treated with benedryl) anyhew.... i tried my theory a couple more times.. and wahlah.. the lights. then i realized THAT is why he hated school so much! he begged and begged to leave there and to study at home.. (thru meltdowns, my son is non verbal).. anyways.. then i realized the stores! the flourescent lights! in time, i learned it was also being in the sun too long.. i do give him shades.. but that is not always a given to work.. who would have guessed.. i'm not saying flourescent lights are always the culprit but in my case they are. if he is great for a week and he suddenly acts out, beating his ear and head til they bleed and being violent i can almost always track down a forgotten lamp with a flourescent bulb that has been turned on.. who would have guessed meltdowns could be seizures.. it seems so realistic that he is spoiled and just wants a toy and didn't get it? but so many times he got the toy and still melted down.. it just never made sense.. after melting down and screaming and crying.. he would be exhausted and say "want to home" .... he didn't even realize it. for years he turned the lights off in our house and would leave one on at night.. we thought he was conserving electricity.. .. nahhhhhhhhh, he was turning off the flourescent lights. well, its very serious and needs to be looked into and the influx of them was about the time the upswing in autism coincides with the upswell in their home usage.. my son is on haliperidol now and valium.. he does still meltdown once in a while.. if someone snaps at him like he is their dog or child.. he will melt... we have come to realize he is an adult in his own eyes even tho WE realize he is infantile in his actions. how many people do you let get away with snapping at you and treating you like a child? that mixed with their anger that they are different is not a good mix.. now on to problem B. getting the whole world around you to not treat your son or duaghter like they need to be snapped and barked at.. especially when your autistic adult child probably deserves it. thats a tough one.. and C. where is my son going to go when i die? D. why won't the gov't help us, give us repbit? why won't the gov't question all of us every 5 years to find out whats new and what we've learned? all us parents ARE researchers... we need to be consulted.. Jail is the stupidist place for an autistic.. they have flourescent lights, they are treated like mud.. and they have no understanding why they are there.. its sets them back 10 years in their mental growth, somethign they may never get back.. i think it should be illegal to jail an autistic and those who do it should be brought up on charges.. jsut because you don't know what to do with my son doesn't give you the right to incarcerate him. that is a detriment to him and it should be illegal. the law should be drawn up and it should be federal. Reagon made a big change to mental hospitals for a good reason, but now we need to go back and rethink this.. it needs to be revistited.. and mostly.. autistics need to be recognized for their differences.. not for how tired they make everyone around them.. then people will start to understand them.. but the more research i do, the more i find out the flourescent light thing is big.. even temple grandon say's they bother her, she can see them flicker alot like a disco light. i am very exhausted.. i am livign with my aging mother and caring for my son alone.. my whimpy husband left. i wish i had a home.

My son used to be very violent at times. We used to have to hide from him as he was 6'2" and 18 years old. He had put his head through walls, doors, a windshield, then he started coming after us. I have been bitten through to the bone, hair pulled out, almost lost my ear one time. He doesn't mean to, and in fact he once said, "why did God make me this way? I want to die." while he tried to bang his head into the wall. We were able to hold him down and tell him how much we loved him. That we would somehow find a way to help him.

In the past Risperdal helped a lot. I cant say enough good about it, disregard the experts that think it is too dangerous of drug. If you are reading this, the benefits far outweigh the negatives. I have seen it help many many kids. My son currently takes 4 mg a day. 1 mg 4X throughout the daytime and just before bed.

I also want to mention that we currently are using Medical Marijuana in the form of a transdermal patch (10mg CBD 1:1 ratio with THC) and it has been unbelievable! Seriously, I would tell everyone to at least try it. It took away all my son's violent behaviors, better than anything we have ever tried before. The first time we tried it, he was on a rampage. I snuck out of the locked bedroom and put one on his back as quickly as possible. I watched on camera and 40 minutes later he was smiling, and laughing at his iPad movie, something I hadn't seen in months.

I give him 1/2 a patch at a time (on his back near spinal cord since he likes to take them off of his foot- where the manufacturers recommend) 4 times a day and one more just before bedtime. I haven't seen him smile for years, and he smiles all the time now. BTW, it would take 72 patches to equal one marijuana joint ... I have tried it ... I feel nothing ... but he is so happy. I don't suggest smoking or eating it as dosage is not accurate and it won't last as long ... instead they get an intense "High" then its effects are gone. The patches are made by Mary's Medicinals and last up to 12 hours. I have absolutely no interest in the company. We go to Colorado to buy them. Of course, it is still illegal in my state, but you would not believe the difference it makes. Its been one year now. It is expensive and Medicaid does not pay for it. Each patch is currently $10, so it costs us $25/day.

One more thing Id like to add is that almost all seizure medications have side effects of violence. This can happen years after taking the drug. My son was violent on Depakote after 3 years, Kepra after 3 months, Lemictal almost immediately, Tegretol after 5 months, Zonegran immediately ...

I hope this can help at least some of you.
God Bless.

Hi Iam a father of an 18 year old autistic son from the UK. Throughout growing up my son has had violent outburst against his siblings and both myself and my wife. He has attended and been advised to take various different therapies and undergone various course of medications.

This is ok but he has refused therapy and does not take the medication as a way of controlling the family dynamic. We had to forcefully make him leave the family home 6 months ago after he violently attacked his mother. Since then he has harrassesd us and we know are taking him to court to teach him right from wrong.

The attacks being with being verbal and now naughty steps of calls of stop helped. They became more physical the more he didnt get his own way and the behaviour wasnt challenged. He gained this learnt behaviour and became more of a bully than a son.

Here is my point I am a ex soldier trained in unarmed combat who has allowed myself and the rest of my family to be abused in our own home. This is because i did not understand my rights and received no advice by the health professionals or social services.

I have vowed not to let myself of other families experience what myself and Emma my Wife has gone through. To this point I recently re qualified as a level 3 self defence instructor and i have taken advice and researched English law to find out how to protect myself, with causing Harm to myself or others and where I stand in the eyes of the law.I have also developed a safe system of self defence from parents to avoid violent physical attacks.

I would be really happy to help anyone with this advice

I have a renter who has a autistic daughter who is violent how can he get help for her. Im afraid someone is going to get hurt or my apartment ruined which Neither I want.

I was attempting to do some further research tonight when I came across this article. As I read it, I realized: My God, I wrote this. This is about me.

UPDATE: I am still having a difficult time dealing with my brother-in-law and his violent outbursts. My wife still has to watch him frequently, and my mother-in-law still refuses to even look into the possibility of a group home. I now have two daughters, and I always fear that he will go after them in one of his outbursts. Just tonight he head butted my wife in the face because she wouldn't allow him to bite a chunk out of our daughter's Nabi tablet or punch the television. My mother-in-law has been through two televisions in the last year and a half because of him.

He is now 18, and has shown zero sign of improvement. My marriage is still strained because my wife wants to be there for her brother, while I don't trust him around my children. Most of our fights are about him. My one victory has been that my wife watches him at her mother's house most of the time now, but even that is a hollow victory as she has to being our daughter's while I'm working.

I am still open for suggestion, but my situation is particularly difficult since I have no power to make any decisions in regard to my brother-in-law's care. My mother-in-law doesn't want him in a group home and claims that there aren't any good facilities in the area. I've never been given any more information than that. It seems like she thinks the perfect place will find her instead of the other way around.

I don't want my marriage to end, and I don't want my daughters growing up without their father around. But it seems that in order for me to keep my family together I must tolerate the presence of an extremely violent individual with the mind of an infant. As I said in my original comment, I've contacted autism groups and gotten no help whatsoever.

Something clearly needs to change in this autism game. We can't keep denying the fact that violence and autism are related. These groups love to flaunt the fact that there is no relation between autism and PLANNED violence. I've never believed there was. It's the unplanned, random violence like an obese tornado that I have a problem with. My brother-in-law can't plan anything, let alone anything violent.

I was very surprised to see such personal attention given to my comment. I hope that I've helped to open up a dialogue about a problem which I know I'm not the only person experiencing.

all i can say,,, we are not alone but at lost at the same time

My son is 20 and is starting to hit me more often. It seems like he want to go to school but he's out for the summer! He's nonverbal but was trying to communicate to me that he wanted to go to school! When I say to him that there is no school he takes both of his fist and hit my arm together with great force! I'm very very very tired of these episodes from him. I have a new year old granddaughter and I pray he will never ever harm her. Reading these comments made me realize I'm not alone! He's on a lot of meds. but they don't slow him down until the street light comes on. That's when he get in bathtub!! I'm very exhausted with the school system and some of the red tape you have to go through before you get any help!! I'm about to start getting myself mentally ready for when he go to a residential home!!

I am 14 and I have an autistic sister. My amateur research showed that girls barely get autism , but she did. My childhood will be forever ruined and scarred. My arms, hands, neck, will never be flawless due too having to hold her down in the car when she has a meltdown. She literally gets out of her seat belt and attacks my mother, we could be riding in silence and BOOM. She aggravates me. I don't want an autistic sister, but everyone will scold me if I say so. Well sorry I don't enjoy getting headbutted and scratched. Do you? If so take my place. I will disown my family when they ask me to watch her in my adult years. Because she'll be bigger and more violent. I don't want to put up with it. I wish she didn't have it, but she does and no one told me how to act towards this. And her father (not mine, just step dad) is just .... He . ugh. But autism ruined my childhood. Oh and this crap says never hit the person. Oh OK . sure. And never yell because they don't understand..... OK. Then just give me the strongest medicine for autism so I can put it in her yogurt. (She has like 50 a day.)

I have a nonverbal son who is very voilent towards me on a daily basis. It's abusive , honestly, but I guess no one really ever states it in that way. I have a hard time knowing how to process my feelings, so I constantly repress them:/ I never know when he'll just lunge at me and attack me. He's only 20lbs lighter than me, and up to my nose on height. I just pray he learns to communicate day by day, so his frustration goes down

I once knew an 18 year old child with autism. He was in my college classes and made the lives of people around him very difficult. He began to punch people. At first he hit a girl he liked, but then he started lashing out on his friends and teachers. He finally got punished by the college after he held a girl down, whilst he touched her. When he was punished he showed no remorse and didn't even try to apologize. He told us how everyone was bullying him and that he should be allowed to do whatever he wants. Luckily the college gave him another chance. It is likely they felt sorry for him because he doesn't seem to understand right or wrong.
He is now on the third warning and has been arrested for assaulting and holding down a member of staff. It makes me feel pretty scared knowing that he can do these things and has shown himself to be very violent when frustrated. He has also taken his anger out on me. He punched me in the throat and when I was on the floor he tried to carry on kicking my ribs. People pulled him away, but I do not feel safe with him around me anymore. It truly is a terrible disease.
They've tried to punish him with adult punishments, however I believe it would be more effective to punish him how you would a small child. He is mentally still about 6 years old.
I am currently afraid of him. I used to be able to be around him, but now I've seen him in a different light. He acts like a nice, be it childish boy. But something inside of him can snap at any moment and in that moment he transcends from a human being into an animal with such primal rage. He cannot be reasoned with or talked out of his assaults. He stops when he is either finished or people pin him down.
I feel like my college is failing everyone. They are failing people by letting him be around them and they're failing him by not getting him the right support. He is a risk to himself and others, but the college wont do anything to stop him from doing things again.

The cops may be trained in how to deal with people on the spectrum, but they're not trained in how to recognize autism, which is hard to detect in mildly autistic individuals, like those with Asperger syndrome.
I have asperger syndrome, and I suffered from rage attacks since childhood, although I didn't really hurt anyone, and with females sometimes those rage attacks don't necessarily involve violence, but more screaming and self harm. I took self defense classes, and punching the bags while building my rage and then stopping when the instructor said to stop gave me self control, and I haven't had any rage attacks since then.
meditation can help as well, and play acting rage-trigger situations while keeping calm, and learning other ways to deal with those situations, such as walking away, for instance.
some of this rage is due to the individual's inability to express himself and his feelings properly, and this problem can be solved with verbal people with the proper training.