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Why Kim Stagliano's All I Can Handle is For Readers Outside the Autism Community

Tawnaonrockwall-269x413 By Kim Stagliano

I'm a member of a writer's blog called The Debutante Ball. There are five "Debs" whose books are debuting (thus the Deb pun) this "season."  I was incredibly fortunate to get the nod as the non-fiction author for this 2011 season.  And you know I look damn good in Deb gloves, the yellow rubber kind.  This week the Debs have been reviewing my book. Tawna Fenske, who writes romantic comedy and has a wicked sense of humor wrote this review below. If you'd like to read the book or give it to a friend outside our community, you can purchase at your local retailer, Amazon and elsewhere. You might have to ask for it by name, please do. Read more about the book at Kim Stagliano. And thanks to everyone who has written an Amazon review - keep them coming please! KS

Can I confess something? I didn’t expect to like Deb Kim’s book about raising three daughters with autism. I don’t have kids. I don’t know many people with kids, and I don’t tend to like books about kids. I do not know anyone personally impacted by autism. All the cards were stacked against this book when it came my turn to read. Yet I devoured it – seriously, DEVOURED it – in one sitting. This book is heartfelt. It’s honest. It’s not preachy or overly clinical. But most importantly – at least in my eyes – this book is funny. Laugh out loud, fall on the floor, pee your pants FUNNY. I write romantic comedy, so it’s probably no surprise to hear I like to laugh. But the true art in writing any sort of humor is the ability to find the funny in situations that most people think shouldn't be funny at all. Kim covers topics from vaccinations to abortion to poop mishaps to unemployment to all the ups and downs of having three – count ‘em, THREE – daughters with autism, and she does it with grace, wit, and delightful humor. I loved this book. I learned from this book. I laughed and cried all the way through this book. So if you’re one of those readers like me who looks at the title and thinks, “I’m not sure I’d like that,” allow me to say you’re probably wrong. I certainly was. And I’ve never laughed so hard about it. Have you ever fallen in love with a book you didn’t expect to enjoy? Please share. And please go buy Deb Kim’s All I Can Handle; I’m No Mother Teresa: A Life Raising Three Daughters With Autism. I promise you won’t regret it.

All I Can Handle Small Kim Stagliano is Managing Editor of Age of Autism. Her book from Skyhorse Publishing, All I Can Handle I'm No Mother Teresa; A Life Raising Three Daughters with Autism is available now. Visit her website at Kim Stagliano.


Aasiyah Bint

thanks Kim Great book, hits home but in a different way.


Is Offit in this book at all? If so PLEASE cast the father from the Roloff Family to play him. He is the spittin' image!

But who plays the pharmawhores?

I see Julia Louis-Dreyfus playing the part of Kim. She's got the hair AND the wit. Perfect, no?

Alison MacNeil

You know for Kim for the movie-I'm kind of thinking Andy McDowell for the hair but with Tina Fey's wit. But there are not three child actresses that could convey the beauty of those three Stag daughters.

Katie Wright

Fantastic book KIm!!!! Thank you for writing it!!!


Server is working again! will order it and no doubt enjoy it. congratulations!

Teresa Conrick

Hey Kim,

You did such a great job! I LOVED reading your book and plan to give it out at Christmas time. Autism is not easy, and for MANY, truly tragic, but you managed to convey to the readers that THIS is OUR LIVES and we will tackle what needs to be done so our kids can be pain-free and function as best they can -- and you said it with honesty, determination and wit!

never give up!

Robin Rowlands

Robin Rowlands . . .
Apologies - Twitter issues at moment . . .

Same old pattern we know so well . . .

Maurine Meleck

I just got my book. Will be reading when Joshua hits the sack tonight. Did scan the photos. They are great! Cannot wait!.
Thing is--I feel the love already.

Kim Stagliano

Donna - so do I so I can cast Jon Hamm as Mark and help him learn his lines.... Mark can choose who will play me. How would Jenny look in a dark haired curly wig? Gorgeous no doubt!

Thanks for the kind words.


Donna K

Anne Dachel said:
"I hope they make it into a movie!"
I second that.

Anne McElroy Dachel

In the midst of chaotic situations, Kim is a scream. As she describes it, "The Lord giveth to the Staglianos, and the Lord yanketh the rug out from under us."

Her imagery is priceless:

"Now I'm eyeing the Drano in the aisle behind me, and wondering how much I'd have to drink to kill myself right then and there.
"No way. I'm not going down. I need the carpet cleaner. I need the box fans. Now.
"Move over Lucy [Lucille Ball], here comes Bonnie [Bonnie Parker]."

The reader ends up cheering from the sidelines. Endless situations gone wrong somehow turn out right. What gets me is the fact that she's on her own so much and so much is dumped on her.

Kim writes, "That's when I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that my kids' care was going to fall to me, and me alone."

And it's not easy never getting time off.

"Yeah. I yelled at Jesus. Then I flounced past the confessional, not remotely remorseful for having called out the Son of God for his shoddy attention to my family's needs and drove home.
"I guess you could say I was angry. Fuming. Vesuvian even. How many dues was I going to have to pay in this life?"

Yet Kim never gives up. She can't. And the autism community and everyone else needs to hear from a mom who's seen it all and lived. I hope they make it into a movie!

Anne Dachel

dan olmsted

yay kim! i don't have kids either and i started laughing out loud at the tinfoil hats and haven't stopped -

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