By Kim Stagliano (Warning profanity alert.)
As Gulf sea turtles are having the oil cleansed gently from their shells and birds are feeling the soft touch of gentle hands wiping their feathers clean, two children with autism felt the paralyzing crush of their mother's despair, anger and abuse. Saiqa Akhter killed one of her children and badly injured a second (who later died), then called 911 (the call is in the Fox News report below, if you can stomach it.) The good news is that it happened in Texas and with any luck, unlike Andrea Yates who drowned her five babies, this bitch will go to her death courtesy of the Texas Justice system.
Children are not appliances that come with warranties and guarantees. Some have autism. Others are hit by a car and paralyzed. Some develop cancer. We don't get to murder them because they do not meet our standards. We don't get to murder them because we are exhausted beyond sanity. We don't get to murder them because we don't know what else to do. Period. I wrote a HuffPo earlier this year, when other parents murdered their children, Autism Should Not Be A Death Sentence. It shouldn't.
I've shoved Gianna into the garage and slammed the door on her at 2:00 O'clock in the morning when she would not stop screaming. "One one hundred, two one hundred, three one hundred"-- I'd count until my blood pressure was low enough to open the door and guide her back to bed. It was the safe thing to do for both of us. I've left Mia wracked with the finale of a stream of seizures, postictal on the bed and stepped into a steaming shower to sob and shake and scream. I used to take crying Bella out of her crib and plop in her front of a tape loop that ran Teletubbies in the middle of the night so I could catch a few precious hours of sleep. Never in my darkest hour (and I've had many of them, I promise you) have I ever been driven to such rage (or despair) that murder crossed my mind. Not them. Not myself. Never.
I don't care if you're a Curebie rolling an IV drip of DMPS around your house or have "Risperdal-To-Go and ABA R US" on speed dial. Surely we can agree that our children have value and deserve more than a silk lined box and a shovelful of dirt?
Published : Wednesday, 21 Jul 2010, 4:15 PM CDT
Adapted for Web by Tracy DeLatte, myFOXdfw.com
IRVING, Texas - The Irving mother who strangled her two children earlier this week told a 911 operator she did so because they were both autistic and she wanted normal children.
Police said 30-year-old Saiqa Akhter strangled 5-year-old Zain and 2-year-old Faraal.
She then called 911. Listen to the call.
She can be heard in an audio recording repeating, “I kill my both kids. They are died.”
Read the full story at Fox Dallas Fort Worth.
Kim Stagliano is Managing Editor of Age of Autism. Her book from Skyhorse Publishing, All I Can Handle I'm No Mother Teresa; A Life Raising Three Daughters with Autism is available now for preorder and debuts November 1st. Contact her at [email protected] to schedule a Skype book club or in-person appearance this holiday season. Visit her website at www.kimstagliano.com.