Cath, I am sorry.
Life is hard, but it is life.
I hope you will look around for support groups.
*There are autism groups even in rural Kentucky!!!
*There are church groups which I find comforting that contain good people that live in my community.
*There are of course extended family, even your husband's family. Just because he left - they are still his kids.
*I have heard that there are suppose to be social workers that hang around some where in the community. I saw two of them recently after a medical emergency with my daughter. I don't kow about 'em. They seem to have a lot of power for no more than what they are, yet they could not write a presciption or have the know how of how to help my daughter come down off her mannia, or out of her psychosis, or support her issues in a timely manner after the fact. But they might have some answers for you . They are plugged into the system or are suppose to be anyway. They might know of group homes, or vocational training for you kids.

*That is it as far as I know. I have probably missed some type of help out there, sorry.

we need to do somthing so this will never happent again, we need to collect donate money either from gover. or from us than to make some kind of activity place (day care) for kids autism no mather what age they are so if the mother feel lack of sleep or need to take a break she can dropp of her child for evew ahours that place each day. espacialy kids from 1 to 6 before they reach in full day school year. before I even read this painful story I was thinking about this idea. I have no place to common about the mother I don't the hall story, but I do know no one should kill a child or person with any reason. another thing I know alot of mother are sturgeling daily lives with no help at all so please lest do something I will work as volunter if any organazation open in my city. lest leen to each other.

Right now I just feel like, this is what they want you to do. When your child is diagnosed with autism, "they" just want you to fall in a hole and disappear.
This woman was doing what the mainstream media and medical establishment was telling her to do."Your child is hopeless". Not everyone is strong enough to resist.

I think it's not just coincidence that both these tragedies followed close on the heels of the big lie verdict about Wakefield. The people who want to believe the big lie also want parents of autistic to just deal w/the fact that it's all our fault, behavior or genetic doesn't really matter to them. They just want us to go away.

The brain has a mind of it's own once the brain chemistry goes over the cliff. Lots of possibilities here: non stop stress depletes nutrients and neurotransmitters, toxic exposures (including vaccines), heavy metal accumulation, intestinal disorders, liver toxicity, legal and/or illegal drug usage, psychiatric medication cocktails; B12 deficiency has been connected to depression and bi-polar, Niacin deficiency to schizophrenia. Some mothers who have killed their children have reported "hearing voices directing them".

We don't know how far over the cliff the brain chemistry had plummeted with these mothers, and I suspect they may have not even been in control of their own thoughts. I just hope that these women both get the right kind of psychiatric evaluations, but knowing the system as we do, they won't be getting any natural or alternative therapies that will help them to regain their sanity in jail....just psyche drugs which will quite possibly push them over the cliff even further.

Raising children that are neural-typical can be very stressful. Raising a child with autism can sometimes be so overbearing that it is beyond comprehension how we do it. The ones that are in their own little world can be actually easy to manage, but the ones that destroy everything in your house, to include windows, furniture, walls, etc., - well, you can imagine that some go through things actually unimaginable.

it's a rough life, autism, lack of sleep, inability to cope with it's daily pressure, no support at home or schools. Still even with that, you can't condone this action. If I couldn't handle it at that level she did, I would have taken him to a social situation and told them to adopt him out somewhere else..I can't handle it...not murder.

That said, I think this will continue as long as we deny that these kids are quite ill, and are not getting the proper MEDICAL treatment they deserve.

And, don't get mad at me, but sometimes the same biomedical problems in the child, is in the mother too. Depression among us is quite high, our serotonin doesn't work, just like our kids...and sometimes we have infections/toxins that are eating away at our brains too....so from the mother to the child, there is not supports. This speaks volumes of our health and welfare departments...and their lack of oversight over a diagnosed child. It also speaks volumes of pediatricians who are not also looking at mothers and saying, you know, you don't look well either? I say this because I have oversaught many brain scans of children and their mothers via SPECT. THEY ARE EXACTLY THE SAME, same damage, same hypoperfusion in the brain. (albeit the damage much more severe in the child) Obviously, we have some familial tendencies to autism, either by inability to detox metals or inability to handle certain infections in our brains too. There is never an occasion that I don't ask the mother, what autoimmune disease she has when she says she has a child with autism. Almost invariably, she too is sick, has like biochemistries and lack of detox.

I however, do shake my fist, just as Tami, that this is all derived by what we are doing to stress out our ecological balances of our bodies, be it what foods we ingest, what toxins we are unknowingly submitted to, and vaccines gone haywire. This mad world is created by greed and averice.

I wish, that the autism research would go this way...that is...to study the familial problems with methylation, glutathione, COMT/MTHFR, the iron problems, the thyroid problems, these are all what matters if you want to stop this epidemic...not just stopping vaccines...I mean looking at the bigger picture.

"What dark brink must a mother face to pour bleach into her autistic child's mouth and kill him?"

A few things come to mind regarding this mom: mental illness, "bipolar disorder" - both signs of metals toxicity...what did her vaccines do to her? Moms need treatment too. I am taking my own advice: I am on a special diet and supplements, and I am also chelating myself...same treatments as my children.

If you have had it, cant take it anymore and want to kill yourself, fine do it, you are miserable and your absolute misery is more than likely doing nothing but harming your child(ren) with your thoughts of ending it all, quitting. Do I feel sorry for you, yes I do. If I had the chance would I hogtie you and ship you off to some therapist that can talk some sense into you, yes. Would I try to pump some hope into you, even lie to you to help you get out of this funk, sure.

Here's the way I see it, suicide is for people who are dying anyway, not for people with circumstantial difficulties. If life sucks join the freakin club. If it is too much to take, spare your child(ren) find a place for them first, anywhere is better than dead. Hell call me up, email me, Ive got 2,200 sq feet of heated space in my house, the three of us sleep in beds that take up less than 50 sq feet of floor space. Im sure others have similar space available. We can put up a cot, lay some sleeping bags on the floor, whatever it takes. Your child will have a place with us, dont kill him/her.

Your child(ren) deserve the opportunity to face those that victimized them, that caused them to be autistic. They deserve to find something to laugh at, to learn new words so that they can communicate basic needs and wants, they deserve to live where they are loved. I have great hope for them as I do my own son. I have seen what joy there is in the world for him and I am certain that there is more ahead for you, and your child.

So if you are so depressed that you are constantly thinking about killing yourself rather than going bankrupt, admitting to your family that you are a failure, that you are ashamed to admit that you are addicted to drugs, alcohol or the fantasy of perverse thoughts fine quit, kill yourself, but not before you find a place for your child(ren).

Look, if you think you are dealing with this all alone, that no one will understand or help, you are very wrong, most of us know what the dark corner is like, we know the feeling of wind in our hair as we stand on the edge. And for some reason, we have found some hope, hope that we are eager to pass along without judgment or condemnation, hope that may save your life. But I tell you what, if you kill your child I will never forgive you. Twenty years from now your child may be a completely functioning human being, one able to tell you exactly how heroic you are, how much (s)he loves you and how even in your most desperate moments you were able to bring him joy. There is a whole world out there that is waiting to open up and heal half if not all of your problems, it's just around the corner if you can hold on long enough to experience it.