Managing Editor's Note: I received an email from Sondra Williams, author of "Reflections of Self," (HERE) last weekend. Sondra is an adult with autism. And a Mom. She writes eloquently about the Sky Walker matricide case (HERE) in Ohio. Thank you, Sondra, for sharing your thoughts with our readers. Kim
By Sondra Williams
My name is of Sondra an adult with autism spectrum disorder. I to have of more of an HFA presentation as adult but not as a child. I to be of live in Ohio and my question is of is it possible after the trials things that one can pursue a legal action against the state because of their lack of systems that failed him and created this ugly outcomes for him. And use of the settlement money if any be awarded to open a new facility that is of a residential facility for those with autism who are of aggressive and escalate to such levels for the safe of their own being and others. And once that is of in place have him moved to that facility. And even name it after hims mother. The state failed of this family and he is of one of our most vulnerable and is of punished for their lack of direct care to him when he has needed it yeara ago but could not obtain it? They failed him and point the blame to him. Sick world we live in.
Much of my own life was of locked and over medicated and restrained and locked into cell rooms with mattress on the floor and no bed or things because of the fact there was of no place for me when I to succumbed to the crisis and escalations of SIB and agitations and aggressive outbursts. So this story itself is of making me quite ill but what is of making me more ill is the way much on the various list turn their backs away from such stories , as if wishing it away but this could be of any of our sons, and how would we be to have felt if those in the autism community turned of their backs to our child in such cases and left of him vulnerable to the systems.
It sickens me to know of the heart of so many might have of compassion but not willing to discuss or be of proactive to this.
Autism is of so many things but often only to those who are of much higher functioning and or Asperger’s is it just a different frame of mind, but to me it has been of my hell much of life……the only things life powerfully teached me was the humans were to be avoided because they would cause of me great harm. My life grew up in mental wards designed for adults with mental illnesses and drug addictions and so it left me vulnerable to that situation and not appropriate for a child, Because of being of a female and also reacting to much abuse and neglect my presentation was of intermeshed and most were of not looking at autism in females so was of misdx much years much much year. And finally correctly dx with autism spectrum in 2001 and confirmed by 3 psychologist and 3 psychiatrist of autism. Not asperger’s type.
Only now as adult and getting some good for me correct to me therapy I to be of discovering I to have a voice and choices and that I to be of safe now in this life. I to never will be of cured and still go to crisis levels and fight or flight responses and can become depressed, agitated and such t the point of being of much suicidal because can’t seem to find a way to function well in the life outside of my home much.
My computer is of my voice box to the world and outside of scripted routine words my world because a mess.
Please do not let of them treat of him this way. Hims mother can in no way ever rest in a peaceful fashion as long as he is of not well. He is of being punished enough by removal of the home, not having hims main source of love and care being there for him, he has no awareness of where she is or why she is not coming and why he cant go home to the only place were all of hims life is.
The sad is when one looks at the parents who murder their children of disabilities they are of often given less punishment towards them when they killed with intent and he not having the ability to be aware and did not do anything with intent is of punished by far more harshly.
Please be of to help of him. I would be of to give all I ot have of to help of him but lack what to do and not know of how but to use of my words from my computer.
Sondra Williams is the author of Reflections of Self (HERE) , a powerful and insightful look at life from the perspective of an adult with high-functioning autism. Her articles and poetry beautifully illustrate the unique strengths and challenges that she experiences. Topics covered include general information about what it is like to have autism, as well as Sondra?s perspectives on her 18-year marriage and her four children (who have all been diagnosed with ASD), her childhood memories, the therapy that has allowed her to discover and value her real self, and her faith. This book is an excellent resource for parents, grandparents, professionals, and individuals with ASD!