Cathy shares the blessings of having a strong husband and father for her five children. Happy Father's Day to all the AofA Dads. I was blessed with a Dad who looked out for me (and my 3 daughters) until the day he died at age 94. Autism and life's curveballs create lions - and lemons. Here's to the lions for whom Fatherhood is more than a photo opp. Happy Father's Day!
By Cathy Jameson
Through his father’s eyes. What does he see? Does he see the same things I do for Ronan? Sometimes. Maybe. Yes. But not always. I am the day-to-day provider. The main caretaker. The maker of the schedule and creator of all of the meals. I take care of the therapy. I drive to all of the appointments. He can do everything I can do, including defend important rights.
But does he? The father? Does he do all the things I do? He does. A little bit. Sometimes.
He can do everything that I can do. He also does so much more! I’m not ashamed of that. Nor am I less than he because of that. I’m the mom. He’s the dad.
I know other families who are going this thing called life without a dad like Ronan has. Their workload is doubled. Their stressors are greater. Their burden is heavier. I thank God every day that Ronan’s father is here. Not every day is a perfect day for him, or us. Far from it! But it’s a day for us to be together, to work together. It’s a day for us to care for a young man with severe autism and multiple medical conditions. It’s a day for us to not give up but to always remember to try.
No matter the path…