The face a person makes when they learn that Ronan's "autism" really means that he was vaccine injured can be full of:
- a) bewilderment
e) all of the above
When the answer is e and it's all those responses at once, you know you're in for a good follow-up conversation. Thank you, new friend, for that convo, for asking a ton of questions about that "autism", and for some sympathy. And like you said, you don't know until you know...
You don't know how your kid (or you) will react to vaccines until your kid (or you) do react to vaccines. So know what your kid (or you) are getting into. Because once you vaccinate, you can't unvaccinate.
That was a message I shared with family and friends one day last week. Earlier that day, I had had 2 other conversations about Ronan and vaccines. The other 2 convos were with mainstream pediatric nurses. Both times, both nurses were sympathetic. Sympathy can be hard to come by, especially when vaccines come up, especially when they’re brought up by a mainstream medical person. When I politely decline a vaccine, sympathy is usually the last thing I’m offered. Things were different time.
The first nurse wanted to know if Ronan has he had a flu shot this season. I kept my answer short. “He had a reaction to that shot,” is all I said.
Without asking for specifics, without giving me any grief, and without giving me the look I’m so used to getting, she said that declining this year’s flu shot was perfectly understandable. After her quick and polite response, I added, “Yeah, we don’t opt for it anymore.” She agreed that after having a reaction to it, Ronan probably shouldn’t get it. I wanted to hug her.
The second nurse asked if Ronan’s immunizations were up-to-date. I said, “He had reactions to some, so…he’s all set on them now.” Without batting an eye, she said okay and moved on to the next question.
People are telling me that they feel like “the tide is turning” meaning that we, parents of vaccine injured children, are actually being heard. The three times I was able to safely share Ronan’s story last week – that he’d been vaccine injured and that this “autism” is not straight up autism but is the result of environmental exposure – I was heard. Being heard was thrilling. So was being told by a mainstream doctor that what I am currently doing for Ronan was to be commended.