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AoA Contest: Saving Deets! A Brother's Tale of Autism Acceptance, Recovery and Making a Difference

Saving deets Cathy M. is our winner.  The contest is closed.

By Kim Stagliano

Zack Gonzalez is a 16 year old whose brother Ethan, aka "Deets" has autism. Countless siblings are dealing with the issues of having a brother or sister with autism. Few are able convey the gravity of that experience, their hope for some form of recovery, engage in charitable work and offer advice to families the way Zack has done so well in Saving Deets.

We have a signed copy for one lucky Age of Autism reader. Leave a comment to enter.  I hope you go to Zack's site HERE and order a copy, to support him.

From his site: Saving Deets! is Zack's first book. It is his family's journey with his autistic brother, Ethan, aka Deets, told through his eyes. The book covers, acceptance, recovery and making a difference

The book is filled with heart-filled stories and pictures from Zack & other hand-picked families. It is bold and controversial, yet soft and loving. It also includes helpful tips and information including different charts.

The book is $18.50 but exclusively sold for only $17.00 when purchased from & you get to choose which organization you would like to donate a potion of the proceeds to. The book can also be purchased at: Trafford Bookstore
& will soon be available World-Wide in all bookstores this November!



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Gina Rivera

I have twins that are 16 that are now going through the same situation. I have a 2 year old with Autism and they want to help her so bad and they just cant figure out what to say or do. This book would be a wonderful gift for them since they are avid readers!


I would love for my son to read this book. He struggles every day with emotion about his 7 year old brother with autism -- everything from jealousy, anger, sadness and embarrassment to being immensly proud of his accomplishments. I would love to read it as well to gain better insight as to "our life" from his perspective. Thanks Zach for sharing your story to help others.

Candace Sheets

Very cool. I am looking forward to reading the book and passing it on to my daughter when she is old enough. She is only 4; but is already aware of some of the differences in her brother with Aspergers. She is very in tune with him and she worships him. I know she will be an asset to him as they grow up together. I look forward to seeing their relationship grow.

Cherry Sperlin Misra

To all you wonderful parents who have older siblings - or younger siblings to your autistic child- I suggest that you find useful sentences that you use when talking to people about your autistic child . These sentences should be chosen as ones that your NT child can use - rather than be nonplussed when confronted with difficult situations regarding the autistic child.You see, it is always easier to say something that you have heard someone else say. You could also have family brainstorming sessions about how to react to people. This could lead to wonderful discussions about why people do and say the things they do about autistic persons or discussions about how you can help autistic people all over the world by educating people about autism , via the comments and statements, bumper stickers and teeshirts

Erica in Alabama

My son with Autism is 6, his older sister is 13. When my son came into our lives we had no idea who we were. Being a part of my son's life has taught both of us a lot about who we were, who we are and who we want to be. Having a child with Autism and looking into their eyes will ultimately determine what kind of person you are going to be. My daughter will tell you herself how much she learns from her brother, not just about herself but about other people as well. He brings out the best in all of us. I am going to order this book for her (she loves to read) and hopefully it will encourage her to write her own story. Unconditional love and support is a beautiful thing to witness.


Siblings and extended family members - who are involved - are out kids future advocates! They will keep telling out story and demystifying autism. If the rates are 1 in 100 (or less) - what is the number of those impacted??

Stephanie McBride

With one neurotypical daughter amidst her three autistic brothers and Aspie dad, we see the sib relationships every day!

Cathy M

My DD is 6, dealing with her brother who is 8 and LFA. We are just beginning to have real struggles with his physical responses to her NT 6 yr old girly noises and actions. Her drawings of how this makes her feel are heartbreaking. She's going to attend some SibShops, but I think reading some of this book to her will also be a great help. We'll be buying a copy and if we win your copy, donating it to our local PAC library! Thanks.


I don't usual win things, but wanted Zack to hear my congratulations for such an attempt to be such a loving sibling.

Maria Durci

Good for you Zack! My youngest has autism and his older siblings have been so very important in his life and have helped me a lot in our journey to healing J. It is a true challenge to be a sibling of a child coping with autism, but also a tremendous blessing. Best wishes on your journey with your brother.

Tricia Kiefer

Wow...I'd love to win a signed copy; the siblings of any special needs child are so often "forgotten." The truth of the matter is, there is no other relationship that can compare to the bond of a sibling. If I can help my "other" 3 children learn how to cope with their brother's autism, as well as reassure them more often that I love them just as much (even though I spend so much time advocating for their brother), buying Zack's book will be worth every penny x100 and then some. Thanks, Zack - you are a hero in my (unwritten) book! :-)

Patrick Eidemiller

Sign us up!

I am fortunate to have an amazing 14 year old autistic niece, with her own company Powerlight Studios...I joke that I work for a 14 year old, but it's true. She produces cartoons, music, and stories and we have some great opportunities in Hollywood coming up.

There is hope out there, many autistics are gifted, the challenge is finding the gift!

tina ramos

i would love to entered the contest.i am so excited to read it.and i am so proud of you for doing this for your brother.

Jeni Zambrano

Enter me in the contest.. I intend to purchase a book anywho, but should I get another, I will be sure it goes up on the shelf in my public library :)

Barbara Bucknam

I would love this for my daughter!

Zack Gonzalez

Hey Everyone,
It's Zack, thank you all for joining the contest and thank you all for your support!

Stay up to date with upcoming giveaways, book signings, special exclusives & more by:
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Mike A.

I am blessed with 2 wonderful children, Kyleigh who will be 6 in January, and much like myself, is very verbal and comparatively N.T. and my son Brody, who just turned 4 and who was placed on the spectrum before he was 2. Brody does not speak, but the collections of sounds that he produces are are ever changing, and are bitter-sweet music to my ears whenever he is with me.
We had a meeting the other evening with his teachers, paras, therapists, etc. at his school and were discussing his progress and pitfalls. His Speech Therapist shared with me and my Ex some of the progress he is making and it gives me hope. As a now single father, everyday I hope for the day when I will hear Brody say 'Dad', but I know that day is still so far away...
I have come to realize that as they teach Brody about PECs and try to form his aria of sounds into distinguishable and meaningful words, I can forgo hearding 'Dad' or 'Dadda' or 'Daddy', as long as my son can speak his Big Sister's name, "Kyleigh".
My daughter loves her brother so much, and instructs & corrects me when we go food shopping about what she knows Brody can and cannot eat as he is GFCF (in hopes of making Brody feel better inside & out...she tells Brody to "Stop" when he runs away...she helps me pick up after him when I ask her to help me (hard enough to get a 5 year old to pick-up after themselves, much less their little Brother) some people are builders, Brody is the "unbuilder", if he was a designer he would work in the world of "Contemporary Autistic". Kyleigh loves her Brother even if his way of communications can be rough, the occassional bite, sometimes a scratch, or pinching in a a way that is amazingly painful from the tiny fingers of a 4 year old! Even his versio of a kiss is a combination of what seems like a kiss with his little lips, and then sometimes a nibble & more!
When I told Brody's S.T. about my desires to forgo "Daddy" in lieu of his sister name, Kyleigh, I cried, and this wonderful woman understood. I will be submitting a picture of Kyleigh so they can much like his PECs, work on helping Brody to be able to call out and form a communicative bond with his sibling, the person who day-in and day-out will be there for Brody many times when I or my ex-wife will not be. Brody's as amazing a little "Bouncin' Man" as he is, is lucky to have an amazingly loving sibling in his sister Kyleigh, and I applaud Kyleigh, and all the other siblings like Zack, of Autistic children and adults who unconditionally love their unique Brothers & Sisters.
Mike A. (CT)


Please enter me in the contest. I am currently working on becoming a teacher and am trying to aquire as much knowledge as I can about autism to be better informed of the signs and symptoms not only for myself, but for other parents who might have children affected.

Kathy Blanco

Nobody believed me when i posted on our yahoogroup, that this must be a tick borne in LYME DISEASE folks...ticks can carry VIRUSES...the vector is BROWN MICE and DEER TICKS...

This exciting news may have implications for people with Lyme disease. It is a "murine" (mouse) retrovirus. We all know that ticks feed on mice. They don't know yet if ticks are vectors of this retrovirus, but if they are, they could pass it to humans along with all the other tick-borne infections they carry. Whether ticks transmit it or not, the presence of this retrovirus may explain some cases of treatment-resistant Lyme disease. We won't know until they develop a commercial test. And then treatment is a whole new ball game. We hope this discovery translates quickly into relief for people with intractable fatigue.

I started a group a couple of years back which found that kids with autism HAD LYME. What kidn of lyme, what type was interesting...because many would not seroconvert the antibodies, due to their immune dysregulation. But, when they get on ABX's the borrelia drive to the serum and they light up like christmas lights.

I also mainttained, that lyme is comgin FROM THE PARENTS. The mothers ofte have fatiguing illnesses. They are sick with lyme, and passing it to their children.

David, I emailed you, and there were no replies years ago. Perhaps you should have read that email....

Interestingly, the highest lyme states, have the highest rates of lyme it any wonder when you superimpose the maps of incidence, they exactly match?

What more do DAN doctors need? They need to be starting now to testing kids with autism for lyme...which by the way, is increasing, as much as autism is.

Lyme can mimic over four hundred diseases, some of them can be very innocuous...some are debilitiating and life threatening.

If this comes to light, we should get the DAN doctors with the LIA FOUNDATION, to wake them up to some certain facts...a small thing called FAMILIAL BORRELISOIS, would hamper the argument that autism runs in does....and the inability to detox....


My comment is from my typical son explainig Autism to the the Spanish exchange student. " That's my older brother. He has autism. He doesn't speak as gooda English as I do."
Liam was spared from all we learned from his brother. I hope too we can give him the strength to advocate and treat everyone with the respect and dignity we all deserve. I so hope to win this important book to add to the Autism Library. Let's all keep HOPE Alive

PJ Carroll

Please enter my name. My daughter is also planning to write a book about her brother someday. How great it will be for her to read another sibling's perspective!


Enter me, please! My child w/ asd has a twin who needs to hear stories from other sibs.


Laura Kay Berry

Just last week my 11 year old daughter had a classmate at school making fun of an autistic high school kid who had visited her house. She called him retarded and made fun of everything he did and everything he said. My daughter didn't even know how to respond. Her 9 year old brother scripts constantly, can speak only in short rehearsed sentences and still wears a diaper; but is cute, funny and intelligent and she adores him and accepts him completely. As parents we often think we are shouldering the burdern alone, but autism affects every member of the family. Kudos to Zack for sharing his story so that other siblings will know they are not alone!

Joelle Scholl

I would love to have a copy of this book. I have a 14 year old dealing with a 10 year old brother and his Autism.

Terri Cooper

i would love to read this book. I have two sons, 5 and 9mo, the oldest has autism.

Laureen Forman

I love the fact that the siblings are involved - I hope to instill in my daughters the compassion and advocacy that my son will need when my husband and I are gone. I want to know what his siblings think and feel about their brother what made the difference. For my son, his siblings are young right now but, I hope I am a good enough parent to instill in them that all people matter and need to be protected.



Linda Wynne

I would love to read this book. We have 4 boys- 2 on the spectrum.

Susan Varney

I would love to hear Zack's take on life with an autistic sibling - as I'm always wondering why my daughters life will be like when she's old enough to realize (& hopefully embrace) her brother's differences.


I would love to win this book. I have three sons, and fortunately only the oldest suffers from autism. xoxo

Lisa Thompson

Please enter me, as this sounds like a great book.

K Fuller Yuba City

Our boy has 2 sibling warriors. Nick would not be where he is today without them on his team. Enter my name please.


Would love to be entered. We're just about to have our third son... so our younger two will experience this firsthand.


It is so important to hear from the viewpoints of siblings of children with autism. Can't wait to read the book!


I have a son who will soon be 16. Jeremy has a hard time (even at his age) realizing how much energy and effort I have to put into Riley. Sometimes I wonder if he does care for Riley at all. This is not a good feeling for me since when I'm gone...he and my daughter will be the caregivers for Riley. I want him to see that there are other kids his age that are going through the same thing. I'm going to go to Zack's website and let him look and see how he feels about everything. I would love to take him out to dinner (just him and I) and give him this book. Please, please, please enter me to win the book.


enter me please

Amy Hebel

Please enter me.

Teresa Conrick

I would love this book!

Holly M.

I would love to hear from Zack's perspective. I have a 15 year old with 2 siblings.


Please enter me!


Pick me! I would love this book.

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